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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725825" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thought I'd start this thread to see if anyone had looked at any changes in any way for the coming year. Post thoughts, hopes or changrs for 2018, if you want to share. I love reading your thoughts, all of you, and zi k ow 2017 was hard for many and I hope you have better times to come if you are one who struggled.</p><p></p><p>2018 will be big and I hope better changes for me. Hub is retiring in April so travel and relaxation is in the cards. I am very high strung (highly sensitive person) and hope this lifestyle change is soothing, like hot lemon tea. Here are a few hopes/resolution/ changes I wish to see in 2018.</p><p></p><p>1. Actively get involved in caring for and rescuing homeless dogs. This is a long time dream of mine. I would also like to volunteer to help the homeless. They have a soft spot in my heart, regardless of their stories.</p><p></p><p>2. Buy a small house near water in an area to be determined later. We want to move near Jumper. Buy a boat!</p><p></p><p>3. Travel!!</p><p></p><p>4. Continue to study spirituality. Stay spiritual. Be strong in knowing that I am a spirit having a human experience.</p><p></p><p>5. Loving others even more, working on loving myself more, filling life with positivity. Practicing daily gratitude for my great life. The great life did not come easy and I want to remember to thank the universe and my God.</p><p></p><p>6. (Warning! Whiny rant. Read at your own risk. Apology in advance) ***Keeping people who are not good for me or abusive to me completely out of my life. Took me 40 years to shockingly realize I have been badly abused, controlled and insulted by my family member...must honor myself by keeping no contact....none. Have to fight the thought ,"Maybe it will work this time." I thought that many times and it never happened ...must remember her using (or misusing) cops to control me (shudder...who does this yet expects to resume a relationship?), passive aggressive putdowns "Your husband is great for you, but he isn't for me", & "I felt you were more dangerous than abusive boyfriend" (eyeroll), & "I always told Dad I was his favorite daughter it was just a joke" (no, it wasn't a joke, but to her disappointment, it also wasn't true, but she always longed to be favored. It never happened. My angel bro was deservedly my mother's favorite) ), & "My sister is borderline" (dont even care, but its just more stuff that she says because she thinks it bothers me) & and her numerous no contacts with me for idiotic reasons then coming back either on holidays or during tragedies as if all was well, and on and on. I don't deserve any of that and nobody who treats me like that can ever be in my life even a little bit. NO CONTACT EVER! Even if it takes my attempt to get a court order. Evrn if I I have to go to Illinois to get it attempted. Even if I have to send a subpena. Why should i refrain? She did not. Ok, so I hate what she did...as long as she accepts no contact, I will never have to do it, but my family is on my side. They always wanted her out of my life for good....</p><p></p><p>7. To stop writing or thinking about Sister and to never check her possible rants about me. I have been good as gold in the latter. I hope to stop needing to vent about her soon. I am feeling good about my decision and shortly you should all be spared my shock at knowledge of extreme abuse and waning angst that somebody I thought at least loved me a little was truly awful to me. I am good at getting over things. It will pass soon.</p><p></p><p>8. Cherish my hub, kids, grands and two close friends, lovely co-workers and pets every single day. I am blessed. I have no reason to hold any anger in me and these days rarely do. Look forward to peace and harmony, something I am mostly used to now <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Those are my main plans for changes for 2018. Sorry for the boring rant over sister. I am still new to the idea/shocked by the lightbulb moment that I was being terribly abused all these years...I thought I was just a bad person and it was my fault. I can't go there ever again. So I vented again. Gawd, I am stupid to not have seen it. Bah humbug! Sorry to probably bore you all. Moving on..</p><p></p><p>In general, expecting 2018 to be great. You? I love reading your stuff beyond just difficult children <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725825, member: 1550"] Thought I'd start this thread to see if anyone had looked at any changes in any way for the coming year. Post thoughts, hopes or changrs for 2018, if you want to share. I love reading your thoughts, all of you, and zi k ow 2017 was hard for many and I hope you have better times to come if you are one who struggled. 2018 will be big and I hope better changes for me. Hub is retiring in April so travel and relaxation is in the cards. I am very high strung (highly sensitive person) and hope this lifestyle change is soothing, like hot lemon tea. Here are a few hopes/resolution/ changes I wish to see in 2018. 1. Actively get involved in caring for and rescuing homeless dogs. This is a long time dream of mine. I would also like to volunteer to help the homeless. They have a soft spot in my heart, regardless of their stories. 2. Buy a small house near water in an area to be determined later. We want to move near Jumper. Buy a boat! 3. Travel!! 4. Continue to study spirituality. Stay spiritual. Be strong in knowing that I am a spirit having a human experience. 5. Loving others even more, working on loving myself more, filling life with positivity. Practicing daily gratitude for my great life. The great life did not come easy and I want to remember to thank the universe and my God. 6. (Warning! Whiny rant. Read at your own risk. Apology in advance) ***Keeping people who are not good for me or abusive to me completely out of my life. Took me 40 years to shockingly realize I have been badly abused, controlled and insulted by my family member...must honor myself by keeping no contact....none. Have to fight the thought ,"Maybe it will work this time." I thought that many times and it never happened ...must remember her using (or misusing) cops to control me (shudder...who does this yet expects to resume a relationship?), passive aggressive putdowns "Your husband is great for you, but he isn't for me", & "I felt you were more dangerous than abusive boyfriend" (eyeroll), & "I always told Dad I was his favorite daughter it was just a joke" (no, it wasn't a joke, but to her disappointment, it also wasn't true, but she always longed to be favored. It never happened. My angel bro was deservedly my mother's favorite) ), & "My sister is borderline" (dont even care, but its just more stuff that she says because she thinks it bothers me) & and her numerous no contacts with me for idiotic reasons then coming back either on holidays or during tragedies as if all was well, and on and on. I don't deserve any of that and nobody who treats me like that can ever be in my life even a little bit. NO CONTACT EVER! Even if it takes my attempt to get a court order. Evrn if I I have to go to Illinois to get it attempted. Even if I have to send a subpena. Why should i refrain? She did not. Ok, so I hate what she did...as long as she accepts no contact, I will never have to do it, but my family is on my side. They always wanted her out of my life for good.... 7. To stop writing or thinking about Sister and to never check her possible rants about me. I have been good as gold in the latter. I hope to stop needing to vent about her soon. I am feeling good about my decision and shortly you should all be spared my shock at knowledge of extreme abuse and waning angst that somebody I thought at least loved me a little was truly awful to me. I am good at getting over things. It will pass soon. 8. Cherish my hub, kids, grands and two close friends, lovely co-workers and pets every single day. I am blessed. I have no reason to hold any anger in me and these days rarely do. Look forward to peace and harmony, something I am mostly used to now :) Those are my main plans for changes for 2018. Sorry for the boring rant over sister. I am still new to the idea/shocked by the lightbulb moment that I was being terribly abused all these years...I thought I was just a bad person and it was my fault. I can't go there ever again. So I vented again. Gawd, I am stupid to not have seen it. Bah humbug! Sorry to probably bore you all. Moving on.. In general, expecting 2018 to be great. You? I love reading your stuff beyond just difficult children :) [/QUOTE]
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