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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 601334" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>I know RE. I need to separate myself from the situation. It is HIM who is there and HE's ok with it. I'M not but it's not ME who is there. Yes, my house is cozy and clean. I wouldn't say it's spotless (sometimes laundry isn't put away and there's occasionally a dish or two in the sink) but I'm a big fan of things being clean. This motel room was NOT! And honestly, neither is difficult child. Clean doesn't matter to him. It never has. I don't know if it's part of being mentally ill or a boy or what but he's ok with filth. Uggggh!</p><p></p><p>It's funny because seeing that room today reminded me of how my mother must have felt visiting me for the first time when I moved out of my house at 19. I grew up in a nice middle class suburban family but my ex came from a very dysfunctional, inner city family. Back then - being so young and naive - I thought that was "cool". Ugggh. Anyway - after I moved down there my mother came to visit. I'll never forget the look of devastation on her face when she walked into that 3rd floor, roach infested, paint peeling, hole in the wall for the first time. She didn't say anything because she wasn't like that. She was kind and supportive but I will never forget that initial look on her face. I felt <em><strong>exactly</strong></em> like that today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 601334, member: 12470"] I know RE. I need to separate myself from the situation. It is HIM who is there and HE's ok with it. I'M not but it's not ME who is there. Yes, my house is cozy and clean. I wouldn't say it's spotless (sometimes laundry isn't put away and there's occasionally a dish or two in the sink) but I'm a big fan of things being clean. This motel room was NOT! And honestly, neither is difficult child. Clean doesn't matter to him. It never has. I don't know if it's part of being mentally ill or a boy or what but he's ok with filth. Uggggh! It's funny because seeing that room today reminded me of how my mother must have felt visiting me for the first time when I moved out of my house at 19. I grew up in a nice middle class suburban family but my ex came from a very dysfunctional, inner city family. Back then - being so young and naive - I thought that was "cool". Ugggh. Anyway - after I moved down there my mother came to visit. I'll never forget the look of devastation on her face when she walked into that 3rd floor, roach infested, paint peeling, hole in the wall for the first time. She didn't say anything because she wasn't like that. She was kind and supportive but I will never forget that initial look on her face. I felt [I][B]exactly[/B][/I] like that today. [/QUOTE]
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