Anyone else raised by a gfg?

[greenrene]

This site has been so helpful to me in not only dealing with my own gfg, but also understanding more about my own mother, who would most definitely be classified as a gfg. Possibly an extreme gfg.

Her birth was traumatic - forceps were used, and she was blue when she emerged. I heard bits and pieces about her childhood from my grandparents but not much, enough to know that she was a difficult child in a time/place where it was very much misunderstood.

She has never been officially diagnosed, but she has issues with depression, anxiety, narcissistic tendences, and bipolar tendencies. All that made for quite the upbringing for yours truly. She and I never truly bonded, and that has affected me in more ways than I care to really think about. She was verbally abusive and downright cruel at times to my younger sister and me. My father was/is loving and kind and always said that my mother couldn't control her temper, that she didn't really mean it when she cursed us out, said she hated us, and called us good-for-nothings. I didn't understand it at the time (what child can?), but I'm understanding more now that I'm grown. Lately I've been reading some about how attachment issues can affect a person's adult life. Wow. I'm finally starting to understand some of my own hangups and issues. I also have a wonderful mother figure in my MIL, and I'm sloooooooooowly healing from lifelong wounds.

Add to the mix the fact that I grew up in a church that has one foot in the cult category... yeah. Mother issues and God issues. That's me.

Anyone else raised by a gfg?

[klmno]

Oh yeah- I won't go into detail b/c I've spent so many years trying to get psat it and forget about it. But most definintely- my mother was (and is) a MAJOR gfg.

[cubsgirl]

My mother is a GFG. She hasn't spoken to me in 15 years because I'm not "mature enough to approach her".....whatever that means.

You're not alone.

[Hound dog]

Oh, you'll find plenty of company.

My mom is/was a major class A gfg. She's mellowed quite a bit with advancing age. Or else I've done a great job keeping boundaries in place......but it's probably just the age and a potent sense of her own mortality. lol

[greenrene]

My mom has mellowed a lot with age, too. She's now in her early 70's. Distance has done us a lot of good. I think having children was just too much for her.

I was always afraid of becoming a mother myself b/c I was afraid I'd be like her.

[TeDo]

Yea, I'm a member of this club too. I have posted about her before as it relates to my kids, especially gfg1. She was a "good kid" according to my grandmother so I have no idea what happened when she had kids. She was physically and verbally abusive. Now, she is WORSE. She is passive aggressive, opinionated, judgemental, obsessive, and speaks her mind in not so nice terms. Age has NOT mellowed her.

[Dammit Janet]

I was born to Mommy Dearest. I swear they wrote that book about my mother.

[hearts and roses]

Yes, count me in as well. I just don't think my mom should have had so many, but she claims that she and my dad were so in love she wanted to keep having his babies (oh puke). I was a surprise at 40 for her. She was great in some ways, twisted and selfish in others...she wouldn't win any awards.

But I've made peace with her. Now she's a harmless old lady in a nursing home, trapped by her weight, health issues and Alzheimer's, confined to her wheelchair. Despite her gfgness (which she still has), I love and care for her.

[InsaneCdn]

No GFG Dads?
They have to be out there, too...
Surely I'm not the only one with...
- a GFG Mom
- a GFG Dad
- at least 10 uncles and aunts who were over-the-top GFG...
- and then there's the "cousins"... 5 generations of them...

I grew up in GFG-land.
My poor kids. They never had a chance!

[upallnight]

Undiagnosed psychotic mother....still. But, thank goodness we're all normal, right? lol