Anyone else raised by a gfg?

[gcvmom]

Yep! Welcome to the CLUB!

My dad was never diagnosed because he refused to listen to those "crazy" doctors, lol!

Agoraphobic. Panic disorder. Depressive. Paranoid. Reclusive. Verbally abusive and occasionally physically abusive. Very controlling. Hoarder. Mild substance abuser. And now deceased a year ago August.

Lots of unresolved Daddy issues and codependency bad habits that I'm slowly breaking.

I'm just happy my mother has some semblance of a LIFE left to enjoy before her time is up here. I hope she takes it as far as she can

[lovemysons]

Greenrene,
Hugs for the hurt you experienced growing up.

My mom had me at age 17. She was abused by my alcoholic dad and left him when I was 2 yrs old. I was raised by my mother alone.
She went through a "hippy stage" in California. She moved me around the country 10 X by the time I was in 9th grade. She used pot in front of me...a friend (school teacher no less) of my mothers and my mother bought me a 6pack of beer to "calm me down" on the way to summer camp when I was in 6th-7th grade. I also rescued her from a near "rape" in our living room when I was around 7th grade...after she had gone to a bar and met a man and brought him to our house. I had to tell him to get the H out of our Home!
So, yes, there were times that I was "raising my mother" as she was not quite suited for motherhood til I was at least 14-15 yrs old...that is when she decided to change her life, start going to church, let us live in one place and so on.
Today she is NOT the same mother that I was raised by. I don't think she can handle all of the truth though regarding our "past together" as she often changes "history" these days.
I KNOW the truth though...
It was tough growing up with her. A GFG? Not sure, but most certainly a very immature and non-nurturing mother for half of my childhood.

LMS

[MidwestMom]

No GFG Dads?
They have to be out there, too...
Surely I'm not the only one with...
- a GFG Mom
- a GFG Dad
- at least 10 uncles and aunts who were over-the-top GFG...
- and then there's the "cousins"... 5 generations of them...

I grew up in GFG-land.
My poor kids. They never had a chance!

Both of my parents were gfg's. Mom was high strung, hyper, depressed, anxious, and loved to call names that I had to fight very hard to get out of my head. She disinherited and disowned me for reasons unclear to me and my siblings.

Dad is a narcissistic man whose entire world revolves around himself. I can't remember how many times he has said, "Not one of you has given me one moment of pleasure, not one!" Yet he barely pays any attention to us or his grandkids and can't even remember the name of his great-grandson. He's never seen him. His main interests are the ladies in his life and impressing them, and he is 87 years old...lol! I'd say good for him, but he has been this way for as far back as I can remember. His rages were also frightening, although he did refrain from hitting us most of the time.

If given the choice at Thanksgiving to be with his kids and grandchildren and his lady friend's (whoever she happens to be) kids and grandkids, he always chooses to go elsewhere.

I believe strongly that every challenge in your life is a test from your higher power and a chance to learn. I believe both my parents taught me how NOT to parent...lol!!!! MY sister agrees We have not repeated the cycle, so that is one good thing!

[StepTo2]

OK, my parents have a few issues here and there, but for the most part they're well adjusted people, or at least they were by the time I started remembering!!! There are GFG moments, but...

DH's parents, OTOH - WHEW!!! Both MAJOR MAJOR GFG's. I see why FIL's parents sent him to boarding school, and MIL - well, her father died when she was 4, and her mother was ALSO a huge GFG. So... I'm amazed DH is as normal as he is! (Not saying much...)

[trinityroyal]

My mother is schizophrenic. My father is a sociopath.
My brother is an opportunist, who was happy to throw me under the bus when the time came, to ensure that he remained in good standing with GFG-mother and GFG-father.

My grandmother, bless her soul, was the most wonderful, caring, loving person ever, and the reason I survived all of the above. She hung on by sheer force of will for an extra 2 years after the doctors said she only had 6 months to live, to make sure I was old enough (12) to raise myself the rest of the way, as she had raised me up until that point.

I'm part GFG myself. Who wouldn't be under the circumstances? But I think I'm under the 50% line, so I'm happy with it.