I know we are all here because we have GsFG, but I am talking about older/other family members.
I also know there are many on this board that are in the same situation as I am.
I am just sooooo tired of taking care of all of the rest of my family that I could scream. Well, I have actually.
I should go back. My dear mom died almost a year ago. She was one of my best friends in the world. She did most of this "care taking", so I promised her I would take care of things when she passed.
My dear dad didn't even know how to write a check, so now I am paying his bills. Not a big deal in and of itself.
My grandparents are still alive and in their 80's. My pop is in the nursing home, and my mam is still living at home, but mostly crippled. She can live by herself, but I have to get her groceries, etc. I take her every day to see my pop.
Then, we lost my mom's oldest brother withing nine months of her death.
My MIL has either Alzheimers or something...at the very least it is dementia. For that I am certain. My sister in law is in a group home (very small with only six "girls"), because she was being very violent to said MIL. SIL is 54, but has had many problems since birth. MIL won't go to the doc and DH just puts his head in the sand about the whole thing.
GFG is still doing stupid things, etc. etc. etc.
It is making me so tired I can't hardly see. There is no respite because no one else in the family gives a big.....care.
I'm still trying to work, too. We have a little truck farm (produce) that we try to run and get by with, but I'm behind on that, too.
I've looked into adult care and other avenues for help, but it just doesn't seem to be working.
Sometimes I think this is just so much harder than dealing with a GFG. BUT, then again she has been out of the house for a long time now. Maybe my brain has just erased the worst parts of the GFG.
I have never liked the "buzz" words, but I really do believe that caretaker fatigue is true to form.
I feel for all of you here doing the same thing. Sometimes it is just too hard to respond to your threads, and for that I am sorry.
I'll keep going because I promised my mom and everyone counts on me, but it really gets me down sometimes.
Thanks for listenening.