This coupled with your ex's harrassment, I would be seeking shelter elsewhere immediately. You sound as if you are not safe, at all. You can go to a womens violence shelter, and they can set you up with all that you need in terms of food, shelter options, health options, etc. if you do not have the money for an apt right now. But you need to get out of these 2 situations ASAP. You are in danger. GFG2 will be OK as long as he feels safe. You cannot let his feelings direct you in these areas, because he does not know the full story and all the info - you do.