I need any & all good vibes, re: PC's grad party; could be cataclysmic. Just my luck!

[Signorina]

So, Pc 17 - about to be 18 - has been dating a NICE girl for 3 years. Parents are divorced since she was 5 (and her sis was 3), dad has primary custody and her mom moved about 45 minutes away from them and sees the girls every other weekend. Odd but whatever (fill in the blanks). Nice parents, i have met her dad and her mom numerous times - they've been divorced for 13 years and seem to do OK (but cool) at school celebrations, etc.

PC knows both the mom and step dad and the bio/custodial dad very well. He often goes to step dad and mom's house to pick up his gf or attend family functions during "mom's" weekend. He likes them. Cut to "prom picture party" May 2012. I tell PC that if his gf & her mom & step dad want a "family picture", I would be happy to take it. PC responds "her dad and her step dad have never met. If (gf's bio dad) met (gf's step dad), he (bio dad) would probably punch his (step dad) lights out... GF's step dad won't be at the picture party..." And he was not, so no issues!

On sat, we attended his gf's grad party at her mom/sdad's house and had a lovely time. It was the first time WE met the sdad. Nice guy, PC likes him. Yet, PC especially adores his gf's bio/custodial dad (who has primary custody and whom he knows well) who is also a teacher at PC's HS and his former sport coach.

So, I am guessing that their was some sort of adultery involved and the gf's mom left bio dad for step dad. Seems to make sense.

So, PC17 is having his 18th birthday party/grad party on Saturday. GF's parents have been divorced for 13+ years I ask pc "who should we invite?". He said "invite both sets, they will work it out..."

Guess what? Both Bio/custodial dad and the Step Dad are coming...meeting for the FIRST time...HERE..and PC is worried there will be trouble...just my luck...as if I needed ONE more thing on my plate...

EEP

[Nancy]

Oh boy!!!!! Can't wait to hear about it.

Nancy

[keista]

Oh can I come? LMAO! I would love to see this unfold. Although I am truly sorry this is going to happen at your home at a party you are hosting. But you never know, it might work out well.

[InsaneCdn]

Actually... sometimes people in long-term "tough" situations like this, actually do better when the whole thing is somebody else's "party". Each of them knows PC well, and knows that it wouldn't be fair to expect PC to go picking between them... and, if perchance some day there were to be a wedding, it would be the same problem (times some astronomical multiplier). So, maybe in fact there will NOT be any dust-up at all.

[cubsgirl]

Good vibes and juju - I think it will be fine!

[buddy]

yikes....well....after all this time, hoping it is all talk, not true punching out.

Let us know how the celebration went! Have a wonderful time!!!!!

[Dammit Janet]

This is why I have said parents always need to put aside their petty differences and PARENT a child no matter what the situation.

We had basically the same type of deal come up at Keyana's third birthday and I was so afraid of a blow up that I actually missed her party. She had a huge party at her maternal grandmothers house in the backyard with a blowup bounce house and dozens of friends. In the beginning, invites went out to us (Papa and Me and one to her Daddy). Then Linsay, her mama called me to say she felt it might be better if Cory didnt come if he was going to bring his girlfriend Mandy. Well thats when I just knew it was going to be a throw down. Cory was not going to miss this party and he wasnt going to leave Mandy home. I was getting more stressed out by the minute.

Cory went over early to help set up the yard and help Lindsay's husband and mom get everything ready. It turned out fine even though I wasnt there. Cory is always polite to Jeremiah and it seems to go both ways. The two who seem to have problems with each other are the baby mama's. Problem is Keyana loves them both and no one can stop that. No one should try.

Im sure your sons gf's step father loves her as does her father. The more people who love a child the better off she will be. Its better than having no one to love her in that position.

[hearts and roses]

First congratulations to PC!

Sending along positive peaceful juju...but I think it will go fine. They will likely sit apart from one another, make an appearance and then split. Hugs!

[upallnight]

Congratualtions pc! Do they each know the other is going? You won't have to worrry about the biodad punching anyone because he's a teacher. He could lose his job if he gets arrested. I think everything will go well.

[Calamity Jane]

Oh Boy! As long as each of them knows the others were invited and accepted, it should be awkward, but OK. Maybe you should hire an undercover bouncer for the evening??!!
It's just odd that they wouldn't take a picture together, but they will all be together for a party? Sounds like they each don't know the others are coming! This could be an "I Love Lucy" moment.