Jumper is crabby and I found out why. What to do?

[Methuselah]

If only she could watch "Sooner or Later", the great After School Special about first love starring Rex Smith! In all seriousness, two years is a long time to pine. It's not healthy. Does she say what she misses about him?

I'm all for checking phones. Our GFGs don't have them. GFG1 likes to take and share videos and pictures of herself doing things she shouldn't. :-( It's for your daughter's good that you check. To not check would be irresponsible.

[MidwestMom]

Well, this is what happened.

Jumper came home and we sat down to talk and I told her that we both knew what the problem was and that I felt it was interfering with every part of her life. To my surprise (she is no crybaby), she teared up and then as we talked about the texting conversation she had had with J., she cried harder and came up to me, sat on my lap and hugged me and cried more and we talked more. I told her she needed to talk to her friends about it and she said no, they didn't understand. I brought up counseling and this time she said ok (now to find a good counselor). We talked about how much easier it would have been if he had just walked away and never contacted her again and I asked her if she felt she could not answer if he texted her. She said she didn't know. She did promise to try to move on and to have a good time tomorrow.We are going to Illinois to see Julie (PastryChef) and we're going to Mid-evil Times if anyone lives in the Chicago area.

So, Jumper is still a very sad young woman, but I feel a little bit better and am going to make sure she has a counselor she can relate to.

[TeDo]

Good for you MWM. That sounds awesome. It is sooooo nice for both of you that you have this kind of relationship. I am so very jealous.

[Nancy]

My suggestion is to look for a counselor that specializes in adolescent issues.

Nancy

[witzend]

Ask friends and/or coworkers if they can refer a good counselor. A good counselor is WONDERFUL, but a bad counselor makes things worse. I have never gone wrong when I've gotten a recommendation from someone I trust.

[MidwestMom]

Thanks all.

Nancy, I sure will. Thanks.

[DDD]

Once again you have chosen the "right" way to approach Jumper. You make me smile because you often seem so very very unsure of what to do or what to say......then......VOILA! you make the perfect choice. Hugs. DDD

[welcometowitsend]

Way to go MWM! It sounds like Jumper is on the right track to getting through this and with your help she will do just fine!

[Dammit Janet]

Mid-evil Times is wonderful if you have never been there before. I took my boys there for Thanksgiving one year...well not the same on you are going to but the one in Myrtle Beach but the acts are all the same. I think you will love it.

[MidwestMom]

Thanks for all the replies when we were in Chicago. I had a great time. I think Jumper is too. She kind of is hard to read and she did mention that she wasn't getting any texts from anybody and I told her she had to make the first move too and she said she wouldn't and I shrugged. I hope things are getting better. I'm not sure they are, but I'm going to try to find a counselor first thing on Monday. And, yes, I will ask friends who they have used.

I am not that great a parent...lol. Jumper is a pretty easy child. We are also very close, although I know I "annoy" her at times. You couldn't parent a gfg like I can parent Jumper. a gfg (which I have a few of) will just refuse to do anything you recommend and won't cooperate. Jumper isn't like that. Not yet anyway.