need advice.......again!!

[standswithcourage]

Well I need advice. My pc had two video game systems - XBox 360 and the Wii systems. Well my gfg had his friends in here at different times and they took his systems. One at a time - I believe they took them for payback for drugs - anyway - the dilemma is my pc son wants them back - he thinks he knows who took them - so - should I buy the system for him - he plays it way too much - sometimes he sits here all day and plays the games with his friends - I cant stand it - I feel bad for him that they were stolen - we called the police and had it reported and today I am going to a teenagers house that I believe knows what happened to the Wii system and offer up some money, which is all they want, for the whereabouts of it. He is so mad about it because he worked for those systems himself. However I dont want to enable bad habits just like I dont want to enable drug habits for my gfg - is that what I am doing if I buy the system back for him?

[Shari]

Wow. What a tough position. I gotta think on this one. On the one hand, you hate for gfg's to affect pc's lives more than they have to, on the other, its life, and mom can't always rescue...

I'm thinking....

[WhymeMom?]

Buy him the Wii Fit game pad.......then tell him he must play this at least 30 minutes a day before anything else gets played. This could help with his exercise program. Hope you find the system without buying it at full price..... Yep, having GFGs is sometimes costly......

[standswithcourage]

Thanks - Shari - I am waiting on you to think! Also thanks Why Me Mom? good idea.

[Shari]

I guess I'd probably help him buy one system back and also help him establish a way to safegaurd his system this time. I think a wii would fit into a small fire safe box with a combination, so it could be locked up with not in use.
Its so unfair to pcs to have to live like this, but its also a fact of their lives, too. If brother remains a gfg, its a reality pc will have to face and prepare for for the rest of his life. So yeah, I'd get him a system back, and devise a way of safegaurding it. If it gets left out and stolen again, I'd say he's on his own from there.
I just read WMM's post - the wii fit is a GREAT idea.

[slsh]

IMHO, gfg should buy pc both game systems. His debt.

[So Tired]

Depends on if you can afford it. gfg took my pc's razor scooter and left it at a friends house. I took pc straight to Toys r us to pick out another and told gfg he would have to pay for it. gfg got on phone right away to get scooter back! Now pc has two - but i don't care. pc has had to suffer so much with her older brother's ****, she deserves to be able to ride her scooter on a nice summer day, and it was not a financial hardship for me. Now she has an extra if a friend is over.

I would try to get it for pc. Add cost to what gfg owes you. Mine has run up quite a tab!

[Hound dog]

Stands

I'm a mean Mom. (Just ask my kids) lol

If you can find a way, I'd get PC his system back. Not his fault they were stolen. And if you did file a police report your house insurance will pay to replace the stolen game systems.

Then I wouldn't let gfg or his friends anywhere near the new system. Period. There is no reason pc should be made to suffer for gfg's poor choices.

Hugs

[Coookie]

Just a thought here.....

I would get the system back for pc and then for gsfg birthday, or Christmas, explain to him that the money you would have used for his gift was used to retrieve pc's game system. That may be the only way you will recoop your loss.

On a side note, my gfg used to play his games incessently, with his dad and his friends, and eventually moved on to other things. You have to handle that the way you think is best as no situation is the same.

Good Luck.

Hugs

[witzend]

If GFG is still awaiting that paycheck, it should probably be used to buy PC his stuff back. And I do like the Wii Fit idea. He would probably like that much better than a gym and trainer.