Question re. college tuition

[susiestar]

Well, Oklahoma IS known for its lakes and fishing, but we don't do much surfing unless you count jet skis.

I never thought I would like it here either. Our town is NOT the typical OK town/city. With the University and a few major factories we have a wide range of people, tastes and more activities than you would normally think of.

And just because he might come here for his education does not mean he has to stay. But my folks are not going anywhere, and I have a LOT of friends here. If he wanted a job and access to a cabin on a lake I could help him out. Cause the cabin is a lifetime bennie for employees of a certain restaurant. It isn't the greatest job ever, but it would pay the bills and give a lot of bennies that are atypical.

I included info about the school here because many schools work similarly. The trick is finding out which schools work with which states.

Either way it is something to think about and to let HIM think about.

One of the things about picking a school is looking at who you know near there who might be a resource for help/friendship there.

I hope he follows through on this teenage dream and has a great life as a veterinarian.

Is there any chance he would join the military? That can break through a LOT of the restrictions and give preferential status to his application to many schools. Right now no Mom really WANTS their child to join the military, but it is one route he could take.

[klmno]

Yeah- I definitely want gfg starting to think about these things. He is of an age and in a situation where he needs to decide if he's willing to do what it takes to reach his ambitions. He needs to think about these things ahead of timee so when he's back in mainstream, he understands that he can't always go out with friends or give into temptations impulsively or not make an effort on homework b/c this effects grades, which effects ability to get into a good college. If he wants to go to college, he needs to commit to prepping himself for it. Ok, I KNOW he could go to a junior college and do it anyway, but this is my plan to try to make him more responsible and easier to deal with at home. LOL!

I guess this is one way I'm trying to take the responsibility off my shoulders and put it on his. I am curious about some of the opportunities for him though so I look into them as I think of them. Them I can relay the info to him in such a way that HE needs to think about it and ultimately, HE makes those decisions. Still, I want to make sure that my decisions now don't limit his opportunities or make it harder for him later on.

He's not one to work to go to college just for the sake of it so if he is shooting for being a vet right now, I'll support that. If he changes his mind three times, I don't care as long as he's working toward a constructive goal. It's not about college or being a vet so much to me as it is getting him to sink his teeth into something. I used to encourage him to do military time but with his record and meds we aren't sure how feasible- or even possible- this is yet. I toned it down as a result and now just encourage him to think about what he wants to be doing out of high school and understand there ios a direct correlation between his decisions now and his ability to make his ambitions reality. Anyway, if he doesn't need to go back on psych meds and stays out of trouble from here on out, he will have a decent chance of being accepted in the military, especially if he stays in JROTC successfully in mainstream high school. If those things don't happen (and the psych med issue isn't something I would hold against him), he probably wouldn't be accepted in.

[witzend]

To be sure, you can cross that bridge when you come to it. One option would be that if you move out of state, you could keep your home in the one state and rent it out, and vote out of state by mail. You'd still technically be a resident, I think...