When you focus on what isn't instead of what is...

[Dammit Janet]

Well since I know what the bowling is, I would tell him that there are bowling ally's in NOLA and that you are will to bowl a time or two but this trip isnt about spending all your time at bowling ally's or staying your room polishing your bowling balls. It is in fact, about the trip to NOLA and you intend to have a wonderful time in NOLA. There are 24/7 bowling ally's in NOLA and if you are not too tired in NOLA, and if he treats you with care and respect during the day, he may just find that you want to bowl that night.

As far as extending his vacation, if he plays his cards right, he may not have to extend that vacation because he will have had a lovely time bowling in NOLA.

[gcvmom]

You're right about that, Janet. And he KNOWS how ticked he's made me over the years turning EVERY TRIP into something other than the trip which should be enjoyed in and of itself.

Sigh. Thank GOD for meds, because I think I'd either be divorced or widowed by now.

[witzend]

Well, if your DH is anything like my DH, if you promise him you'll have sex as soon as you get into the hotel room, he'll get over it.

[Dammit Janet]

I happen to get more interested in bowling when I am in hotel rooms. I am not so interested in bowling at home, but hotel rooms seem to bring out the bowling interest in me. Especially if he might go to the drugstore and buy a pack of KY Yours and Mine!

[witzend]

I happen to get more interested in bowling when I am in hotel rooms. I am not so interested in bowling at home, but hotel rooms seem to bring out the bowling interest in me. Especially if he might go to the drugstore and buy a pack of KY Yours and Mine!

Snicker, snicker!!!

[gcvmom]

Sigh.

Witz, I wish he were THAT simple!

Janet, I get very distracted by my "LIFE" -- gfgs, medical bills, appointments, gfgs, school, illnesses, laundry, cooking, cleaning, gfgs, pets, yard, taxes, gfgs, carpools, sports teams, gfgs, listening to DH whine, and of course, gfgs. Leaves very little room in my head for bowling, . And yes, leaving all this chaos behind is much more conducive to my being able to concentrate on bowling a perfect game in scuba gear while tap dancing to the Star Spangled Banner. Or whatever floats your boat.

[InsaneCdn]

Leaves very little room in my head for bowling

Or a whole lot of "other" things either...!

[Dammit Janet]

Thats why I have always loved motels or hotels. I always loved it when I could go visit Tony when he was working out of town. I didnt care if he was in some cheap hole in the wall. It was away from home. Amazing how much bowling we got done during those times. In fact, that is how Cory came to be. We were bowling too much and the shoes broke on us!

[buddy]

my BIL really got into internet bowling. Liked bowling on a team. Taped a lot of games and lost a job due to it too....

He is now my ex BIL.

[keista]

OCD, perseveration, whatever you want to call it, it won't stop until he actually gets to go bowling. By the same token, you need to gently explain that the more he pesters you about bowling, the less interested you are. As difficult as it my be to fit it into the schedule, you may have to force yourself to have at least one night of bowling.