Court Referee Is Acting Like A GFG

[TYLERFAN]

Hi Family:

Thank you all for your circle of support. My dear friends all of us fighting this drug war......
The court here in Family Court most often assigns a referee to try to make a amicable solution possible for both parties. My lawyer explained this referee is pretty new, doesn't go by the current standards of what should be done and has given him a hard time in the past....OH JUST GREAT [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img]
Lawyer tells me we can "opt out" of this and go to a judge.
Referee fails to transfer us to another part, she sends us back to her on this Friday so that she can see if GFG is able to get Legal Aid. Referee also calls judge for a TRIAL DATE?????? My lawyer was taken aback....told referee trial was premature...you could see they were having a battle of wills. Lawyer asked for another conference. Judge calls back says trial can be set 1/07 [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/916wildone.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img]
Lawyer is going to check out what the Heck is going on......He's never seen this before....she didn't even appoint a law guardian for baby J [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/916wildone.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/916thumbdowns.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img]
GFG has thus far had 2 visits with baby....all supervised. I have to have her come here and have people here so she doesn't try anything according to my attorney. He says possession of the baby by me is important to win.
So, basically we got nothing accomplished.
A trial will cost alot of money we don't have.
This whole system is GFG if you ask me.
I am disgusted by the whole thing.
I am going to bed......
I'm frustrated.

Blessings,
Melissa [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/10-315.gif[/img]

[katskeeper]

Ugh! How frustrating! I had a feeling that this would not go smoothly. Unfortunately, custody hearings rarely do. A trial? That's ridiculous. I can't imagine why a judge couldn't just rule on temporary custody with what your lawyer put forth and then have another hearing in a few months time to see how your gfg is doing and if she is complying with what they feel she needs to do to get custody back.

Hang in there! I can imagine you are emotionally exhausted at this point.

[Marcie Mac]

Jeeze Melissa - I would be tired as well - how hard of a call can this be to make a decision for the time being to keep the baby safe under your wing??

What a farce the legal system is at times..

Sorry
Marcie

[TYLERFAN]

Yes, I am frustrated and mad. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img]
I know that this wasn't going to be easy but not expecting an incompetant referee [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/916thumbdowns.gif[/img]....Just my opinion.
GFG was relieved that case adjourned till Friday, apparently she qualifies for legal aid and has representation already. That's fine, maybe it will help, but at this point I am sure it won't help me. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/1010hammer.gif[/img]
I hate this tenuous game I have to keep playing with GFG with no legal papers in my hand. My lawyer says that possession is 99% of this case. I have to maintain possession of Baby.
GFG is also entitled to visit, which we gave her last Sunday in a house full of relatives and yesterday with my SO and my parents here.
This just plain Sux. I am going to talk to lawyers office today about all this. I am sure it can be fixed without a costly trial.....I hope it can [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/9-07tears.gif[/img]
I also plan to talk to GFG one more time and try to get her to understand all we want is temporary custody....we want her to get treatment....I'm sure it won't work. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/1010hammer.gif[/img]
Meanwhile, yesterday baby J started his new trick..... He blows "raspberries" with his lips.....how cute!!!!! It was also very apropo to the day.....if ya know what I mean.

Love to all. Waiting for Friday now. Please continue to pray, it's much appreciated.

Blessings,
Melissa [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/warrior.gif[/img]

[Genny]

Melissa,
Since the referee is newand inexperienced, I wouldn't hesitate to go over his head. Personally I think it would be better if you did it rather than your lawyer (more likely to get somewhere), but talk to your lawyer about how to present the facts so the incompetence is clear. Threaten to contact your Congressman if necessary...the referee is a public servant who is not serving anyone's best interest - least of all Baby J's.

Now I remember why I hate court so much. Too often whay happens there defies logic. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img]

Hang in there...we're here rooting for you!

HUGS
Genny

[KFld]

If she would just see that if she would get treatment for herself it would be the beginning of the battle and that you aren't doing this to hurt her, but to help her.

The court system sure does stink sometimes. You have to often wonder who's side they are really on????

[PonyGirl]

Hit the nail directly on the head, Genny!

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Now I remember why I hate court so much. Too often what happens there defies logic.

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Try to keep your sanity, Melissa. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/warrior.gif[/img]

Continuing prayers for all of you. To Friday, "and beyond"! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Peace

[DDD]

Ditto, Pony. DDD

[Ltlredhen]

[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/919Mad.gif[/img] I agree!

Donna

[PonyGirl]

On a Happier Note, I wanted to mention, Melissa, I LOVE the "raspberries" from Baby J!! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rofl.gif[/img]

(((Funny Hugs)))

Peace