Hello everyone. I am new here, but have been going through what I read lots of you have been through before. I have a 17 year old son, soon to be 18. He has given us trouble for the last few years, gone from the perfect, well-behaved and smart grammer school student (everyone wished their son could be just like mine!) to getting arrested for possessing marijuana to skipping school, eventually getting his GED, won't get a job, continues to smoke marijuana, cigarettes, drink, probably take pills, and most recently found him on the floor with a needle next to him - he's been doing heroin. Called 911 while me and his 14 year old brother had to hold him so he wouldn't run away (I couldn't wake him up and thought he may have overdosed), all the while his 7 year old sister screaming that she was scared to death (dad was at work). ER did nothing, just sent us home with a paper with names of facilities that can't help us. Called everywhere in Louisiana and can't get him detox because he's 17 and there is no where here to help with detox at his age. He says he's now detoxed himself (not sure about that). Agreed to go to outpatient rehab but refuses to go to inpatient, which I know he needs. ANY IDEAS ON GETTING HIM TO AGREE TO GO TO INPATIENT REHAB? We went to one outpatient facility and they wouldn't accept him because he was very aggressive and the intake coordinator said she thought he'd "get physical" if someone said something to him that he didn't like. Have another appointment tomorrow with an outpatient facilitiy, but am afraid he will be a no show or will not agree to their terms (must be drug free, of course, they will test, has to attend 4 days a week plus has to attend 3 hours a week of a 12 step program). He says he will quit everything but weed, and the facility I'm sure won't accept that.
I also found him and a few friends smoking weed in his room yesterday (3 days after finding him knocked out after doing heroin). He left and hasn't been home, although we've been in touch with him. He's mad at me for telling his friends they cannot smoke in my house!
Anyway, any advice is appreciated. I CAN'T BELIEVE I CAN'T MAKE HIM GO TO INPATIENT TREATMENT AGAINST HIS WILL! HE IS GOING TO KILL HIMSELF. We are at the point of telling him if he doesn't go to rehab, he will have to leave, as we can't have drugs in our house and have him disrupting our lives as he has for several years now. Of course, we're terrified that if we make him leave, he will certainly continue drugs and probably get into more trouble. God only knows what he would do for money if we kick him out.
I know there is a good kid inside, and he comes out occasionally, but we just can't live like this any more.