And ...he's GONE (again)

[Signorina]

He wasn't even home for 24 hours. 22-1/2 to be exact. H awoke him at 10:30, asked if his plans had changed (they had not) and told him to start packing. Reminded him that if he left, he was gone for good. At one point I tried to talk to him & he completely ignored me. I finally just sobbed grabbed his face in my hands and told him I would always love him and kissed him on the forehead & said goodbye. My mommy heart packed a bag of meager groceries-loaf of bread, jar of pb, few apples, bag of oranges, box of granola bars...and left it by his coat.
I left, sat in a parking lot for 2 hours & tried to read-mostly stared at the steering wheel. At 1:00 -h texted me that he was taking gfg to his gf's house (surprise! Not) and that it was safe to come home. He said gfg never said a word except that after he unloaded his stuff he asked "are you going to help me or not?" and h gave him the past due jan rent and feb rent. He didn't say goodbye.

So-"he's gone" lead to "he's back" to
"he's gone". All since Friday. I did clean out the stuff he left & his room is bare. He doesn't live here anymore.

[Nancy]

I'm sorry Sig. He's made his choice. He does not want to be there. He has bigger plans and some day those plans will fall apart and he will have nothing. You have gone above and beyond what any parent would do and he has closed all the doors.

Take the time now to regroup, get some much needed sleep, and start having fun with your other sons and dh.

And stick around here.

Nancy

[buddy]

Wish I had a magic something for you... Just hugs...

[toughlovin]

It is good for all of you that he is gone...and oh so painful. I would wait awhile and then text him that you hope he is ok and that you love him....but definitely dont invite him home. I think it is important to keep the door open to your relationship even if the door is not open to your house.

Hugs,

TL

[Signorina]

Thanks everyone. I prayed and prayed all day Saturday that he would come home. I think this was G-ds way of letting me know that he doesn't belong here anymore and that He (G-d) heard my prayer. That's all I got.

[Kathy813]

I'm know that you are hurting but I do think this is for the best. Your home would have been in a constant state of siege if he had stayed.

This won't be the end of it but at least you and DH and the PC's will have a chance to take some deep breaths and plan for what happens next. He'll want to come back when the rent runs out or he gets hungry and try to get you to give him money.

I suggest that you don't even take his calls for a little while. You can text him that you love him but need a break from the chaos.

{{{Hugs}}}

~Kathy

[PatriotsGirl]

((((Sig)))). Our kids are just so danged determined to learn everything the absolute hardest way possible. What an emotional rollercoaster you have been on! Do something for you....

[AlabamaGirl]

Sig....i am so very sorry your gfg is making these choices. You are a brave, loving and courageous woman.

I hope you get some rest and some peaceful family time soon.

[DDD]

Just more caring hugs. We often refer to life with our GFG's as a rollercoaster ride. Lord knows he has been up and down lately and it can be nauseating for the whole family. Go ahead and mourn. Then you will be able to move on to the next step for your family. DDD

[FlowerGarden]

Sig, sorry you have had to go through this. You and H did the right thing. Hopefully through counseling you, H, and pcs can move on. Sending caring hugs your way.