GFG#1 came home yesterday and told me about his day. Included in the info was "Oh, btw, I ran into xyz at the grocery store." (xyz was his PO and is a nice normal guy, btw) Then he added "he asked me how I was doing and I told him I 'was maintaining'". I wonder if "maintaining" is something he learned in his s.a. programs? That is not a term we have ever used at home and his pals don't use big words, lol. Have you guys heard it in rehab? Just thought it was curious. DDD
DH & I have raised our 25 yr.old grandson. At 14 he turned to pot & booze to cope with problems. He's a GFG#1. In 2005 he fell off a balcony, had brain surgery and has TBI effects. His recovery is very stressful. Time will tell if he ends up GFG or PC. Our GFG#2 is 21 and now lives with his GFGmom. He's ADHD, AS, BP plus. DH and I have 6 children and 11 grands. Yikes!
DDD,
Made me think of "maintaining the status quo"...
DH and I-married 24 yrs. (25yrs on July 25th) me, Bipolar 2 take Abilify
GFG-24 yr son, out of Prison. Divorced, now living with gf and 1 yr old daughter, sober for past 7 mths
GFG-22 yr son some college, Got married, joined Army, kicked out. Living with his MIL, hooked on pain meds. . Dad to 3yr old son and 1 yr old daughter.
PC-19 daughter, in college with a full ride bowling scholarship. Simple, life is just not that hard for her.
"There but for the Grace of G-d go I"
I have not heard that term used in the recovery sense either, but that doesn't mean much.
Nancy
"When people show you who they are, believe them - Maya Angelou
PC - 25, kindergarten teacher and doing wonderfully
GFG - 20, adopted at birth, ODD, mood disorder, on various meds for years, now alcoholic/addict, substance abuse treatment center July-Sept '10, lived in sober house April '11-Nov '11, now completely relapsed and living in denial
DH - my partner and friend for life
Me - married for 37 years to high school sweetheart
Pets - shih tzu 12 years old and queen of the house
Reminds me of Weight Watchers - "I'm on maintenance."
Me: 50, trying to find some peace among the chaos.
GFG: 18, alcohol, Wellbutrin, possible bipolar, in college and I'm hoping he will pass, court soon for DUI and third degree theft.
Bio Dad: abusive to both of us. Gone since gfg was 4.
Two cats....sweetest little souls I know.
The main context I have heard that term used is in terms of a methadone or suboxone program for those getting over opiate addiction. I have learned more than I ever cared to about that thanks to exsil. Around here there are a lot more AA/AlAnon meetings than NA/narcanon, so the meetings are more "drug of choice" than saying "alcohol" or "drugs". Most people at meetings who say they are "maintaining" are meaning that they are on a methadone or suboxone program and are taking their meds and doing therapy and meetings as required by the program.
I don't know if this is universal. I don't know if that is a term that is getting into wider usage. And of course we do have words like "y'all" around here to.
Susie - Mom of 3, only 2 live at home.
Wiz -pc/gfg- 18yo son in COLLEGE!
J - pc-15yo dau, Homeschool 9th gr, sweetie!
T - pc 10yo son - SID, 4rd gr. Inventor
Dh - my best friend
Cats-Captain Morgan
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That phrase is quite common around here. Here it could easily be used in terms of addiction but also about anything or even just life in general. For example, if someone asked how I was doing with my MS I could say I am maintaining. Meaning I am holding my own, struggling but coping / managing the disease.
I don't tend to use that phrasing but i hear it quite often. I would assume from the context of the conversation he shared that he meant it as above.
Me - 36/yrs old, engaged (Wedding date Dec.31/2012
GFG (now known as former-GFG) - 18/yrs old, moved cross country in April 2011, maturing into the man I have dreamed for him to be, a old soul
PC - 12/yrs old, tom boy morphing into young lady, witty, insightful, grounded
S/O - Turning 40, best friend, a pillar, together going on 7 years
I use the term- when I say it, it's to say "I'm hanging in there" in terms that maybe aren't so 'slang'. It can be pertaining to anything and has nothing to do with sa.
“I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish that He didn’t trust me so much.” - Mother Teresa.
(And I'm nowhere close to being as good or patient as Mother Teresa!)
Interesting. I'm assuming it means he isn't "backsliding" but isn't "moving forward" either. That appears to be what is status is the last year or so. Sounds a bit healthier than some other responses. DDD
DH & I have raised our 25 yr.old grandson. At 14 he turned to pot & booze to cope with problems. He's a GFG#1. In 2005 he fell off a balcony, had brain surgery and has TBI effects. His recovery is very stressful. Time will tell if he ends up GFG or PC. Our GFG#2 is 21 and now lives with his GFGmom. He's ADHD, AS, BP plus. DH and I have 6 children and 11 grands. Yikes!
Sounds like an honest response then for him. Hopefull we will soon hear him tell people he is "making progress".
PC1 daughter age age 37 closed head brain injury dec 2010. Severe headaches and other neurological sympoms. Getting better slowly still cannot work. Married mother of two
GFG#1 Mood disorder, narcissistic,aggressive in the past Married, one son.
PC/GFG age 30 adopted College grad recently started having delusions. Moved back home.
GFG#2: Age 23. Adopted DXs: ADHD, ODD, RAD, Later Dx's= BP, BMR, conduct disorder, depression, ex(?)-drugs & alcohol. Multiple assaults and thefts. In prison.
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