Just a vent... beer pong pics of gfg on FB posted by his girlfriend's DAD+

[Signorina]

Disclaimer: Let me say that I am not in the mood to hear that I need to detach. I get it, I honor it, I appreciate that helpful advice.I am crabby and incredulous and I am PMSing and I need some righteous indignation! (And I won't "de-friend" gfg's girlfriends father - because he friended ME, he's my neighbor, and gfg is living with them. I do not want to burn any bridges.)

DISCLAIMER ASIDE:

WTF?

http://i1065.photobucket.com/albums/...9/beerpong.jpg

caption read "our nightly activity while (on vacation)" (gfg went with them) (gfg is in the foreground-a friend is in the back)

My son is UNDERAGE. I am not a goody goody - I get a parent giving a college kid a beer or two...but playing & encouraging nightly BEER PONG? Seriously?

Especially when I was in heartfelt touch with both the mom and dad last year expressing my worries about gfg's substance abuse and I SHARED with them that he had been diagnosed (by 3 unrelated professionals - 2 pychs and a CSW!) as a substance abuser at a high risk of addiction. And he had spent a year in counseling being treated for that. And since he started using, he has failed out of school and become homeless. My once straight A kid! All they need to do is to look at gfg's downfall to see the effects that partying is having on his future. How else do you explain it? And yet - they are playing BEER PONG with him? Two 50++ adults playing BEER PONG with their own kids - twenty year olds! And posting about it on FB.

Isn't that nice?

[Nancy]

Disgusting and I'm right there with you with the righteous indignation and think I will cut and paste your disclaimer for future use.

I want to shake these parents until their eyeballs fall out and have them tell me just why they think this is ok. Or actually I'd like these parents to get arrested for providing alcohol to a minor. It enrages me that a parent would disrespect another parent like this and jeopardize the health and welfare of an underage person, one that is dating their daughter. What will they think if your son marries their daughter and has their grandchildren and is a hard core alcoholic/drug addict and can't take care of his family?

I admire the strength you have in not calling them and letting them have it.

We are having our neighborhood block party in a couple weeks and the parents of the boy that let gfg live there and drink and use drugs will hopefully be there, unless they are afraid I will tell everyone how their heroin addicted son was arrested for criminal damage and trespass on our property and they had to pay us $4,000, which of course I will.

Nancy

[Calamity Jane]

They must be imbeciles, Sig.

Doing stuff like that once in a while...well, it happens to the best of us, I guess. But proudly displaying it on FB and right in your face when gf's mom and dad know the whole backstory is another thing. It's either just stupid or confrontational, or both! I am like a psycho mother from hell on my block, and have been known to chase d-bags off my driveway who were idling their car, while texting for my gfg to come out and hang out with them (all the while they are aware that he's trying so hard to abstain). I've cussed at them, threatened them, you name it (and these are the same kids who were eating chicken parm and lasagna at my house all the time when they were pc's in middle school). I just don't give a **** - I'd rather they cry now than me cry later, KWIM?
Those people housing your gfg are just plum stupid and the worst part is I just don't think there's anything you can do about it.

[pasajes4]

It is a head scratcher for sure. It is one thing (not in a good way) for kids to sneak and do this. Quite another when parents not only condone and provide the means, but to actually participate in a criminal activity.......geesh.

I wonder if you could get a police officer to view the picture perfect proof?

[AmericanGirl]

Sig....

I don't know what to say...except some people are total idiots. I know it's hard, but it is so wise of you not to say anything.

The woman who used to live across the street from me actually drove her kids around during junior senior wars so they could paintball houses...while drinking beer (the kids). She's an older mom (should be wiser), educated and a business owner. But good sense is in short supply these days.

I'm so very sorry.....

[92025]

Are you sure the gf's parents know about the extent of his problem? Because if they do, that is just nuts. I'd probably send him a message from the perspective of assuming that he didn't know and give them an easy way to save face....

[MidwestMom]

Well, sadly, gfg is not THEIR kid. Perhaps...they don't really care :<

Idiots!

[92025]

but he's dating their daughter! Surely, they don't want their daughter dating a relapsed drug addict. Esp since it appears they're supporting him now? good grief

[dashcat]

Unreal. I don't blame you for being livid.
Dash

[exhausted]

I am just flabbergasted-it makes me sick that people could be so clueless in this day and age!!!!