Losing it

[AmericanGirl]

I'm cleaning and mentioned that he should be helping and he must've called me every name in the book. It's times like this that make me just watch him fall flat on his face when he tries to make it on his own! He never used to act this way and now it's like he's insane at times and so disrespectful that it makes my blood boil.

WantPeace,

I am at EXACTLY the same point with my gfg.

I got a well-deserved lecture from my Al-anon sponsor yesterday because I warned gfg three times before I did something.

Please understand my comment is to help. Have you considered telling him to help? We all know they should help. But, if your gfg is like mine, they haven't got a clue. Besides, some exercise might help him work off that anger.

It's working for me. Yardwork brings peace.

One other thing I have done with gfg is to use my ipod at times when I don't really want to hear his voice. If he indicates he wants to speak, I will slowly remove the headphones - very nicely because if he figures out what I am doing he will only talk more - listen and then slowly put them back in. He gets tired of it soon and shuts up.

I recommend what I call my Angry Woman playlist....lololol

Sending peace your way.

[Kathy813]

Wow, that teacher is certainly going out of her way to help. I wonder if she has thought of the legal liability if she has an accident with your GFG in the car or if, heaven forbid, he accuses her of doing something to him.

When I was getting my Ed.S degree, the professor in my Teachers and the Law class said that we should never, ever, have a student in our car or even be alone with them at any time. That teacher is taking a big risk to help your GFG.

I don't have the answer about the marijuana but it seems that the IOP would be very aware that trace amounts can show up for a while. It certainly is puzzling.

As far as the verbal abuse, all I can say is to walk away. Of course, that is so much easier said than done. I never managed to do it myself.

~Kathy