New member reaching out.

[rejectedmom]

First I want to say welcome to the board. Many of us here have been through or age going through the same things you are. You are not alone anymore. You have people who understand and who care.

Reading through your post: Your son is 15, still a juvenile and you are already hooked into the justice system. He has a list of crimes too long to post but you cannot get a judge to order him into treatment. I am assuming a CHINS request has already been done? I see that you are a single parent but still wonder where is his father in all this and why is dad not helping with the transportation to PO and court and other things? You also say you operate a trucking company for the last 9 years. I am assuming that means you must be away alot? Doing the math your GFG was 6 when you started this up, correct? Obviously you didn't leave him on his own at that age, so who took care of GFG when you were on the road or at work? Is that person still available to look out for him when you are away? Can they possibly get him to where he needs to be for a modest fee? You cannot do this alone and you need to enlist all the help you can as soon as you can.

BTW, the school administratin is crazy to think that a child couldn't be truant without the parent's knowledge.I KNOW that a kid can be truant from school without the parents finding out. I was a HS teacher and those kids would erase the phone messages and e-mails I sent and intercept the mail. They knew if the parents were not in the loop that I as the teacher could not fail them. It was beyond frustrating. Since this is happening to you, I would call the school every morning and ask if GFG arrived. It will take you only five minutes and then the SD cannot accuse you of being uninvolved. If you have e-mail give all his teaches your address and ask for weekly updates. If GFG refuses to do his homework or go to school call the adminstration. Put the ball back in their court. Make a case for how out of control he is by doing all the things you can to show them you are trying but can't manage to keep him in line.

Now for the hard stuff. If you want to get your son into drug treatment, you do still have alot of control. Until he is either 18 or is declared an emancapated minor you can put him into treatment without his concent. That is not to say he will be cooperative but honestly at this age I would be dragging him anyway I could to counciling. The minimum being private counsiling twice a week. Honestly he seems out of control enough to warrant putting him in an RTC, or a boot camp. I would do whatever I could to get him straight before his 18th birthday. After that you have pretty much no control over him. So it is vital to get him help while you still can.

If resources are the issue then you can apply for assistance. Go to your county or local mental health office and talk to someone there. They can give you info on what is available in your area and what kind of financing is available. If you are wiling to send him away there are places that will take them. Some are even free while others operate on a sliding scale. You can even get someone else to transport them if they are at risk of bolting or hurting someone. Alot of police officers do this after they retire.

I sincerely hope you can get someone to help you with all this. when does he go to court? Does he have a lawyer that you can talk to who can request court ordered RTC?