Shhh...it's "secret" GOOD NEWS!

[DDD]

I'm telling you guys even before GFG#1 sees the official letter. He was approved for Disability. Not only that, it goes back to 2005. Yep, its been a long, long stressful road but soon he will be independent and DH and I will be able to drop any expenses for his maintenance. Lordy even a little financial help will be of benefit to us.

Yes, I am afraid that he will blow his money. No, I am not going to try to control it. I am about as detached as I expect to be in my lifetime and if he implodes I'll just hope and pray that it doesn't impact my determination to limit stress for the sake of my health.

Right?????? Yea, right. I honestly didn't think he would get it because (I guess) I still see my PC/GFG when I look at him and figured the Appeal Court would too. Actually reading the full eight page report with all the mega experts that we took him to after his TBI and others that I've never met..it makes me sadly convinced that he really is not able to function adequately. Weird the emotions I'm feeling.

I'm not telling anyone including DH. Otoh...many of you have cried with me over all these years and I want you to know first. DDD

[AmericanGirl]

YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Doing the happy dance!!!!!!!!!!!

[lovemysons]

Wow, That's Awesome, DDD!!!

You have always been such an incredible warrior parent. Your "PC/GFG" will always hold you dear to his heart.
You did good.

Another Happy Dancer here!
Hugs,
LMS

[StepTo2]

Quietly dancing!!! Woo hoo!!!

[Nancy]

Great news DDD. Hopefully he will act wisely with the money and make some good choices for his future. I'm sure this has to be a huge relief to you.

Continue your minimal stress lifestyle.

[Calamity Jane]

I completely understand how you could be going through a whole range of emotions right now. The good news is you won't be as financially strapped as you could have been. Is there a trust fund or annuity type thing you could set up for the windfall from 2005-now, just so he can't blow it all at once?

[DDD]

Evidently he will be "in charge" of his funds and the one who decides what to spend or not to spend. I wish you all had met or "knew" the PC side of him...he's so sweet/cocky, lol. He told me tonight "Mama I know Grandad and Ace are causing you stress. I saw a house with a separate guest apt. in the back. Would you like to come live at my house?"

OMG. I can't explain all the emotions that went thru me. Ace, the wonder dog, is stressful. My DH honestly is a wonderful kind man...but...the stress of my cancer has sent him reeling to booze and cigarettes. He totally knows that second hand smoke is dangerous for me as the most likely next outbreak of cancer is either my liver or my lungs statistically. Again, sigh, today he smoked inside the house. I have asked him to use our back porch and I will just not go there. Otoh, he is almost 80 and ...you know. But when GFG#1 asked if I wanted him to buy a house with a MIL unit so I could stay healthy. I can't even say anything more. I'm proud. I'm sad. I'm confused. DDD

[Nancy]

He is a good boy DDD and you have a lot to be proud of with him. MIL suite sounds pretty good.

Nancy

[exhausted]

This is wonderful news. I hope it brings peace. Can he get help managing money through voc.rehab?

[recoveringenabler]

How sweet and poignant and what a tug on the old heartstrings............I can see how that would touch you in a number of ways.........HUGS for your tender heart.........