have read all the stickys on this site and others but there is no specific suggestions. My AS has been blowing up my phone all weekend either leaving me messages that he needs a new phone to messages now that I am not there for him when he needs to talk. I just text him back and said there was nothing I could do for him ...my only advice is he seek help. He has never been in a real rehab or even program at this point ..he will be 25 in December
I had been doing good with no contact at all but then I messed up I didn't read any boards and then my mother, who has let him live with her, instead of in his car as I suggested and was emailing me over the chaos he is already causing her on day 2.
He continues to say he is clean yet I don't believe him he is up all night still and up early. I have read that could be a sign he is clean but I also know it was a sign he is using. I live states away so all I have to go by is his voice and my gut and I suspect he is not clean. However I realize I can't put my life on hold anymore and need to let go.
How is my question? Do I just ignore him? Do I tell him I need a break? Do I tell him I am letting go? Do I talk to him but say very little? I just wish I knew what to do or not to do...what to say or not to say ...it's all very draining