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  1. 03-30-2012 11:37 AM #1
    Tiredof33
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    Substance abuser dies

    My cousin's husband's funeral is tomorrow. I have only met him a few times because they have had an extremely stormy marriage.

    He has been in prison several times, both alcohol and drug related. My mother said he is a very giving and polite person when he is sober. He has helped family and friends work on their homes and cars free. Drugs and alcohol made him belligerent and he was in trouble a lot.

    He cleaned up about 4 years ago and has had serious health problems. No pension because he couldn't hold a job, no insurance because he couldn't pass (or afford) the medical exams.

    When I met him about 2 years ago he was about 44 yo and I didn't recognize him he had aged so much. It is such a waste of a life and these gfgs are not realizing the damage they are already doing to their young bodies.
    ME - 59yo married young - marriage from hell - single parent 20 years - 12 years married wonderful man, he really helps because he is not emotionally attached to GFG and helps me think logically! It still hurts regardless how you see it!!
    PC - gifted daughter - had teen problems - scared straight after brush with law - raising 2 PCs
    GFG - gifted son - difficult from day 1 - to say he marches to a different drummer is a mild statement - does not (or refuses to) learn from his mistakes.
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  3. 03-30-2012 11:41 AM #2
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    Tired,

    I'm really sorry for your loss. It isn't ever easy but, under these circumstances, it is even harder.
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  4. 03-30-2012 11:42 AM #3
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    I'm so sorry...
    GFG--18 Yr Old Daughter--Official dx "Personality Disorder NOS" and Disruptive Behavior Disorder (NOS) Previous dx include: Depression, Mood Disorder (NOS), ADD, CAPD, NVLD (NOS), Anxiety, ODD and possible attachment disorder, possible OCD. Last in phosp 10/2009. Currently not in treatment...but doing the best we can on our own.

    DS-14 Yr Old Son--ADHD, Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis
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  5. 03-30-2012 11:45 AM #4
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    Amen! They all think they are invincible. I'm sorry for his family.

    Nancy
    "When people show you who they are, believe them - Maya Angelou

    PC - 26, kindergarten teacher
    GFG - 21, adopted at birth, alcoholic/addict, was in substance abuse treatment center July-Sept '10, lived in sober house April '11-Nov '11, living on her own now and doing ok.
    DH - my best friend
    Me - married for 39 years to high school sweetheart
    shih tzu - 13 years old and queen of the house
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  6. 03-30-2012 06:32 PM #5
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    Re: Substance abuser dies

    Prayers to you and your cousin. That is such a waste of a life...
    gfg: 19 year old son, adopted at birth, arrested for theft and residential burglary (to get money for drugs). Sentenced to probation, a curfew and drug therapy. Violated probation one month after release from jail, and now back in jail for several months. Still has not finished high school.
    ME: 50+, married 27 years.
    DH: 50+, engineer
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  7. 03-30-2012 06:45 PM #6
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    Re: Substance abuser dies

    Really sad. I hope he rests in peace.
    me: 49, sngl adoptive mom, SLP, now SAHM
    son/gfg 16! , adopted @ 2y-10mo, ASD, acquired brain injury (surgery at age 2), borderline cognitive, anxiety, adhd, temporal lobe seizures, attachment issues. Symptoms: severe anxeity, fight or flight, impulsive, verbal and physical aggression, APD, social issues, obsessive/perseverative/compulsive/tics. Meds: Ritalin, Lyrica, Clonidine/Catapres, Benadryl, Lithium (helpful?) & Zyprexa. Service dog added Sept, 2012--huge help!
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  8. 03-30-2012 07:13 PM #7
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    Re: Substance abuser dies

    Another life wasted due to drugs. So, so sad.

    ~Kathy
    Myself: High School Math teacher

    DH: Married for 29 years; also a math teacher

    GFG: 27 year old daughter, substance abuser, bi-polar and BPD, in a treatment center in Florida.

    J: 24 year old daughter, graduated from college in May 2011, just started her second year as a high school math teacher -- like mother, like daughter.

    Family pets: 4 year old Shih Tzu named Gracie, 2 year old Shih Tzu named Buddy
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  9. 03-31-2012 06:36 AM #8
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    Re: Substance abuser dies

    Tired,
    I'm sorry. It seems like he has been clean for 4 years, according to your post, and died of health problems. He's awfully young. If he was in fact, in recovery, then it's fortunate that he was able to accomplish that major hurdle before he died. It's a shame...we never know when the end is going to come, and we just have to be prepared as best as we can. Again, I'm sorry for everyone involved.
    Me: 50+
    DH: 50+ Best guy in world. Married 30 yrs.
    GFG: DS, 19, adopted as toddler, SA issues, in 2nd yr. college in another state.
    PC: DD, 22, adopted at birth, wonderful, joyful, college grad 2012.
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