Janet, J. actually LOVED her father who died young. So she thinks that they need their dads, but she doesn't believe that divorce impacts a child. She has the brains of a severely challenged fruitfly and she always did. The first time Julie met her, she said to me, "Wow, is that girl ever a ditz!" S. is extremely intelligent so I'm not sure what the draw was, but J. was very pretty when she was young (she has since become extremely obese). I give S. this: He loves her anyway. He doesn't care how she looks, she is the mother of his son and he does love her.
I talked to him today and he was calmer, but is feeling pressured about finding a place to live. I will have a thread in the Watercooler about his living situation because I'm not sure how this could play out and it's touchy.
Meanwhile, I'm going to enjoy Father's Day with my hub and the two kids who are here with us. HOnestly...I know this sounds terrible, but I had so many mental health issues myself, I often wish I had never had any biological children. Not one of my adopted kids are screwed up the way he is. I guess I was hoping he'd get some other genes, but, man, he got everything I had and more...I feel very bad about that. Even worse, he is less able to deal with and help his mental health issues because he is so shy. I used self-help groups and friends to get better...he doesn't have those resources. Sometimes I think maybe he's also an Aspie.