I tried to post yesterday but for some reason it did not go through. Honestly i can't understand how my son can be so so stupid and idiotic.
You may remember that we kicked my son out in June. In August he asked to go back to his old program and went and did the work to finish his hs diploma and so we let him come home. He immediately got a job. We were pleased. Then he started screwing up and we did not kick him out.
Then we became aware that this whole situation is getting really hard for our daughter and that it would be better for her if he was out of the house. We didn't want to just kick him out with no new reason but we knew we probably would not have to wait long.
We had already found pot in the house and flushed it, he had already gotten in trouble with the police for having alcohol in the car. We got a tracking system on the car so we could see where he was going and allowed him to only drive to work and home.
So then he told us he was going to work and we checked and he was sitting in the car at work... we got in touch and he wasn't working he was waiting for friends. So he was just breaking the rules and getting around us once again. Well that was enough. I mean 3 strikes and you are out. We can't trust him at all.
So he went to a friends and we went and got the car. He is now staying over there. He did text and ask if he could come home and we said no. We are willing to help him with rent if he got a place, not because it is good for him because it isn't, but to keep him out of the house for the sake of our daughter.
Meanwhile I went to court with him twice on charges that happened over the summer while he was out of the house. The court appt attorney suggested he plead guilty to a felony charge which didn't seem like good counsel. So we are also willing to pay for a lawyer.
His probation is up on Tuesday on a previous case but he has yet to finish his community service or pay the money. If he does not go speak to probation by they can put a warrant out for his arrest. So on Friday I strongly suggested he call the lawyer and talk to probation.
It all made me wonder if he just wants to go to jail!! There is not much more I can do. We are trying to let him know we love and support him but also not let him live here anymore. The rest of us do so much better when he is not here and the worry is not right in our face.
So as you can see he is already in a heap of trouble.
3am last night he calls. He was arrested again for trespassing and malicious destruction of property. He called because the police asked him if he had a ride. I don't think we should have gone but my dh answered the phone and said we would come. He did also say he could not come home. So we went down and picked him up and drove him to the friends where he is staying. They don't know he left to hang out with friends in the middle of the night. I mean how stupid can you be???
He now has 3 pending cases and a 4th one he is going to be sommonsed for. At some point the court is going to look at him and hold him without bail. A part of me hopes that happens tomorrow because he is not going to stop this stupid stuff. Unfortunately if that happens he will lose his job.
I know this is all out of my hands. The kids cannot follow rules to save his life. Until he has some kind of epiphany that he has to follow the rules of society he is headed to jail. He is a smart kid and yet he is so stupid.
I know he is smoking pot. How much I don't know. I really don't know how much of this is due to drug use. Except for the alcohol in the car none of the cases are directly drug related. Each case could be seen as stupid teen boy stuff except that they are adding up fast. Most teen boys would learn after the first time.
I am pretty fed up and pretty disgusted. At least he is out of the house and my daughter is doing much better without him here.