Positive update

**amstrong** · 01-12-2007 01:01 PM

As you all know gfg acted out the other day regarding his home school obligation and as a result, dh told me that he didn't want to hear about him again. Dh did resume speaking to me the next day but has acted like he never said anything. I have been real good about not mentioning gfg to dh at all these past few days.

Wed & Thurs, gfg did not do the required pages in his math as he needed some help-each nite, he came home early, listened to my attempts to explain the work and completed his required pages for the day--this is major! This morning, I had to leave early to take a MS Mortgage Law class (boring-like watching paint dry) and was not at home to prod him to get up when his alarm rang to get up and go to his testing sessions. He got up on his own, went to the home school center and tested on 4 subjects. Not only did he do this, he passed each one of them! He passed 3 of them with scores of 100 and the English which he rufused to go to tutoring for Tuesday, as he was convinced he would fail, he passed with a score of 80-another major stride!

I told dh today, that although he didn't want to hear about gfg, he was gonna hear this as it was positive. He then said he really didn't mean what he said but that he gets so frustrated when he hears negative things that he sometimes just blows. I told him that when I report negatives to him that I am just looking for support. He acknowledged this and all is well with us. When he met gfg at gas pump to fill his tank today, gfg called me and told me that dh told him he was proud of what he did today-so all is well there too. I knew it would work itself out-I just needed to vent the other day and I thank all who replied with such words of wisdom.

Hugs,

**kris** · 01-12-2007 04:37 PM

<font color="blue">robyn, what an accomplishment for gfg!!! i think i'd make a celebratory dinner or bake him his favorite cake lol.

glad you & dh are in a better space.

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**Lori4ever** · 01-12-2007 05:24 PM

That's awesome! I guess good does come for those who wait?! I am thrilled that it has all worked out.

**ScentofCedar** · 01-13-2007 02:34 AM

...and I am especially happy for you that DH acknowledges how tough the situation is. That is the first step toward coming together and presenting a united front to the gfg, I think.

I was happy to hear that gfg thought enough of DH that he would call you and tell you DH said he was proud of him.

You are right, amstrong!

A very positive posting!

Barbara

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**KFld** · 01-13-2007 05:27 AM

That is awesome. Sounds like you should not be around some more mornings when he needs to get up by his own alarm clock. I know my gfg used to need to be dragged out of bed and never got up to his own alarm when he lived home. Now that he's out on his own, he has no problem with it. I think they know when we are here we will make sure they get up, so they learn to rely on that, rather then taking the responsibility to get themselves up.

Hopefully all this continues and I'm glad you and dh worked things out.

**Sue C** · 01-13-2007 08:17 AM

Thanks for sharing a success story. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Sue

**Suz** · 01-13-2007 02:24 PM

Robyn, I'm so glad that it all worked out. YAY! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/28_4_10.gif[/img]

Suz

**hearthope** · 01-14-2007 06:06 AM

Robyn, I know the struggles you face with dh and gfg.
My husband of 7 yrs has no children of his own either and I know your feelings when dealing with gfg.
I go from making a united front with dh, to feeling like I have to take up for gfg.
Then, deep inside I wonder what dh really thinks of this stepson I raised by myself until we married. He would just as soon not see gfg anymore, I think in part because he sees the pain he causes me and pc. I am constantly reminding him that I do have uncondtional love for gfg regardless of what he has done, he is my son.
I am glad your gfg shared with you what dh said. I know it makes your day when dh and gfg can get along.
I wish you many more days like that one [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

**SunnyFlorida** · 01-15-2007 01:31 PM

Ditto Kris's post [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/9-07bravo.gif[/img]

**Irishkalleene** · 01-16-2007 09:14 AM

Thanks for sharing this accomplishment!! We all need to hear about success. We all know these kids are smart...... their behavior is the problem. All through B's school years I used to say "The only thing he is consistent in are his inconsistencies." So celebrate the good and survive the rest. Congrats!!