I probably already know the answer to this, but how far do you go to protect sibs from gfgs junk? How do you prepare sibs for the probability that they are going to be dealing with this dishonest manipulative garbage all their lives? And how do you do it without stoking sibs' anger that has been there before (and probably will be there again) over gfg's totally abhorent behaviors?
Heaven help me, but I think we're headed back to 24/7 eyes on supervision of Ty when he's home. I'm so incredibly unbelievably *angry* about it - he's 16.5 years old!! How much longer does this BS go on? Manipulation, lies, theft... and really, the only way I see to protect Diva and Wee is to limit their exposure to him, both to keep them from getting put in an uncomfortable position of having to "tattle" plus to just keep them emotionally safe.
I am also stopping all phone conversations w/ sibs. I already have email passwords to all (I think) accounts, including Ty's, and I check at least a couple of times a week.
It's been years (probably since the last time he had to leave home for RTC) since we've really talked w/ sibs about Ty and how he's really got a significant problem. They need to start building up the armor now. I do not want them to get sucked into the vortex of his bad choices, now or in 10 years. They need to understand they cannot save him, they are not responsible for him, and that his choices are all his own.
But they also need to understand that Ty is Ty and that he has as much control at the end of the day over his faulty reasoning and messed up thought processes as Boo has over his faulty neurological wiring.
Are we done yet??? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img]