Totally lost-oldest stole truckload of fuel

[Lori4ever]

I have learned info this weekend that kills me. I have always known that J would never seek help for his illness and that I couldn't make him. I always thought that as long as I could help him if he bacame depressed, it wouldn't matter. It was brought to my attn that he was caught on camera stealing a truckload of diesel fuel. What next?! How do I handle this. I can't take much more.

[Suz]

Oh goodness, Lori. I'm so sorry. Has he been arrested yet?

Suz

[judi]

SO sorry! What is happening now?

[Dammit Janet]

Well a truckload of diesel will be considered a felony because of the value. Has he been in trouble before? Do you want to consider hiring a lawyer? His bail will probably be what I would consider steep. Probably commensurate with the value of the fuel. Does J have a job? That would be good at a bail hearing. You can put the deed to your house up with a bail bondsman if you feel he wont run. Or I think its 10% cash down. Maybe its 20%...I cant remember because I never did it. Corys were always either cash or property and I refused to do property.

If he isnt working or he doesnt make too much he can get a court appt lawyer. Here they are pretty good. They pull from all the local lawyers to rotate thru the appt them to people so you can get the same lawyer you may have hired if you could pay for him.

If your son hasnt been in any other legal trouble he may get through this with fines, a suspended sentence, community service or maybe some weekend jail time if he has a job. If worse comes to worse maybe he gets a few months. I hope nothing more than that.

Let us know how it goes. Do tell him the best thing he can do is to turn himself in and not to run from it because that just makes things so much worse.

[transformtriumph]

Maybe you can try to facilitate psychiatric treatment instead of jail time, if this is his first offense.

[SunnyFlorida]

I'm so sorry. Stealing just rips one's heart out.

[Lori4ever]

J does have a job. It was his job that he stole the fuel from. What makes this even worse is this man has known J grow up. The whole family works here. Mom, Dad, one brother. This man is more friend than employer.
He has decided not to press charges because it's a felony and says he only wants to help him. He is encouraging mental health help. I only pray that he doesn't come to regret it. I still can't believe he did this.

[KFld]

He's very lucky that this guy wants to help him. Hoepfully you can all figure out a way together to get him the proper help he needs. You never know, it could end up being a blessing in disguise. Sometimes things happen for a reason, though it may not seem it now.

[kris]

i'm going to be brutally honest. your friend/employer is not doing your son any favors by not pressing charges. he's 23 & it's high time people stop making excuses for him & cutting him slack. he needs to be held accountable. he will do it again...or worse...if someone doesn't take a stand.

i understand the fear of him being charged w/a felony, but if it's his first offense that charge will not stand. they will plea it down. will he still do time....maybe.

you say he's always fought against treatment. so what about this situation will change that? not a thing that i see if the owner doesn't press charges. does the owner even have the option to not press charges? i don't think you get that choice w/felony charges ~~~ & they have him on tape.

i'm starting to ramble so i'll stop now lol. i do understand your fears for him but he's an adult & needs to be treated as such. next time it won't be a family friend he robs.

kris

[antsmom]

did he return the truck/fuel?
can you sit him down and use this as leverage to get him some counseling?