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    What a week

    My week started off badly enough with my gfg having a meltdown over the phone with me. Then I tore a muscle in my calf, and while having it x-rayed they found "significant increase in the bone density." The orthopedist showed me the x-ray and there is a shadowed area in the bone. He "can't say what it could be without more tests," so I get to worry until I have the MRI next week and then wait four days for the results. A few hours after getting that news, pc/gfg daughter calls to tell me she's found out her dh has been having sex with the 18 year old babysitter for about 6 months. Her dh is a recovering alcoholic/addict who just finished his 4th stint in rehab. Life with him has never been easy but this has devastated her, she has 4 kids. I'm 2 hours away from her and feel terrible that I'm not there. I know I can't fix this but she needs a shoulder to lean on. Boy, it's true, bad things seem to come in threes, don't they?!
    Me: recovering alcoholic with 12 years sobriety.

    PC/GFG: 33 year old married daughter, recovering bulimic, probably ADD and OCD.

    GFG: 22 year old son, ADD, LD, ODD, drug and alcohol abuse. Out of the house since 2/03. Spent time in Juvie, RTW, group home, now lives with gf in another state. Still struggling emotionally, no meds, working full time and attending school.

    "The world breaks everyone and afterwards many are strong at the broken places." Ernest Hemingway

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    Re: What a week

    Well, dang it all. PC has learned a valuable lesson on why you use menopausal women as babysitters. Sounds like her dh could use a good swift kick in the ****. Be there to listen when she wants to unload. It's about all you can offer anyway. Poor kid. That really reeks.

    I know you're worried about the bone density. But if you hadn't torn the muscle, who knows when they'd have discovered it? Hopefully it's nothing big, or at least that they caught it quickly and treatment is swift and easy.

    (((hugs)))
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    Re: What a week

    I am so sorry for your worries. I will pray for a good dx on your leg. Your poor PC is in such a horrible position. It sounds like she will have to make alot of difficult decisions in the comming months. Perhaps a counselor is in order for her to sort through all her many feelings so she can make the right choices for herself and her children. -RM.
    PC1 daughter age age 37 closed head brain injury dec 2010. Severe headaches and other neurological sympoms. Getting better slowly still cannot work. Married mother of two
    GFG#1 Mood disorder, narcissistic,aggressive in the past Married, one son.
    PC/GFG age 30 adopted College grad recently started having delusions. Moved back home.
    GFG#2: Age 23. Adopted DXs: ADHD, ODD, RAD, Later Dx's= BP, BMR, conduct disorder, depression, ex(?)-drugs & alcohol. Multiple assaults and thefts. In prison.

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    Re: What a week

    I'm so sorry. I hope you receive good news re your leg; as Daisylover said, at least this injury led to its discovery. Re your daughter, how awful for her. Babysitters and secretaries should all be menopausal! She'll need your support and a listening ear for sure. And gfg ... well, with all of this you have every reason to hang up the phone if he melts down again, and just not put up with his fits. Best for you, good for him.

    Hugs and here's hoping the week ends better than it started.
    Katya

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    Re: What a week

    {{catwoman}}

    I'm so sorry about pc and her H. I am with Lisa - swift kick in the **** for her H!

    Just try to be there for your dd as best you can for now. She needs to work this out - what a shame. What a stupid man he is.

    I will pray for a good outcome on the MRI - try not to freak out (about anything); you will run yourself ragged.

    Hugs -
    Used to be JoG

    Me (Jo):Trying to hold a positive thought. Asthmatic, left knee replacement; celebrex, Prozac, Supplements.
    DH (P): Good guy; sober 5 yrs; vitamins.
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    DD (GFG/PC) G 22: Sleeper~Engaged & Living with bf (E) @ his parent's home.
    Bio-dad(exH): Communicates with his dds directly, which I love...☺
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    Re: What a week

    Just a hug and an understanding heart. Hope the news on the leg is good.
    Me--English teacher, hypothyroidism, arthritis
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    GFG---22 BP(?), GAD, addict, working full time!
    PCdaughter--21, full time student, works full time, my greatest joy!
    Grandson--4. A joy!Granddaughter--1

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    Re: What a week

    Hugs from me too, catwoman. Fingers crossed.

    Suz
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    Re: What a week

    Sending hugs to you and your dau. I am so sorry about her dh. You dau has many decisions to make in the near future. I hope that whatever the best possible outcome is, that it happens for her and the children. I also think a swift kick for the husband, or a taser, whatever works.

    I am so sorry you tore the muscle. I hope the docs were willing to give you pain meds to help you handle the pain. I AM glad they xrayed it and found the dense section of your bone. whatever causes this, it is better found NOW than later. Please try not to worry yourself to death between now and the MRI results. Whatever happens, we are here for you.
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