Okay admit it...

[MidwestMom]

I had bipolar and, although I was afraid to even try drugs or drink, I was a handful. I'd rage about once a month and mouth off terribly. I lied all the time about where I was going and what I was doing, and I was a very moody, sad teenager.

[trinityroyal]

Thinking back, I definitely had GFG tendencies, but didn't go nearly as far down that path as I could have.

High school was the biggest struggle. My Grannie, who had protected me from the worst of my GFG-parents' excesses, had died when I was 12, and I was pretty much on my own. My parents had lots of money and I never wanted for things, but I was left to my own devices to raise myself.

I spent too much time in high school drunk, and ran with a much older crowd, but I still managed to focus just enough to graduate a year early. Same story at university...skipped a lot of classes, drank and partied way too much, caroused with losers, but still managed to graduate with honours.

I think my Grannie's voice was always in the back of my head, telling me to slow down, take the time to grieve, and grow up. I'm sure that sometimes she sent teams of angels to look after me. More than once I was in situations where I could have ended up raped, beaten, or dead but just by very strange coincidences, I managed to escape. I was afraid to try most drugs...I get hopelessly stoned on Tylenol 3 and was terrified of how any of the street drugs would affect me. Again, I think it's a blessing, because otherwise I'm sure I would have gone down that road too.

[jbrain]

I'd say I was a PC because I went to school, did well, had aspirations for college, held a part-time job, etc. But I did like to party too--spent senior yr of high school getting high every weekend with friends (pot and booze). I certainly did not want to cause my parents grief so I was careful not to let them know the "bad" things I was doing. They were worried about my older brother who was a gfg, I didn't want to add to that. I got a bad reputation as a senior cause I liked making out with various boys at parties.

In college I was very happy to have a new beginning where no one knew me or had preconceived notions of who I was.

I was married to a guy I met in high school (he was older, not at my school) for a few years, then met my kids' dad and fell wildly in love. We married, had a baby who died of SIDS, then had 3 more. He died 11 yrs ago, after 16 yrs of marriage. I met my current DH who is a total PC--he is such a nerd. He has never smoked a cigarette, let alone pot, and he was never in trouble for a moment while a teen--he was busy building model airplanes. He is an engineer, very practical--can fix anything, loves to clean--well, maybe he doesn't love it but he does it. He also is a musician, plays fiddle, and loves to dance. He is so much fun to be with--has a very cheerful, optimistic disposition. He also has 3 grown kids--all PC's of course!

This has been a fun thread--I can hardly believe how gfgish some of you were! My mom would never have let me hang out with you guys!!

Love,
Jane

[saving grace]

Ahhhh Where to begin...
I was a gfg for sure. Not even close to gfg but a brat in my own right.
My parents didnt start out in love and never fell in love, they were both married prior to marrying each other, dad was 13 years mom's senior they each had children from previous relationships, mom's kids were scattered out with family and Dad helped her get the kids back, they had me and my brother, we moved from Mass. to Fla a year later my brother died at the age of 7 and so it began...
Dad left a year later, Mom shacked up with some Ahole who molested me then kicked me out at 11, I stayed with my 17 and 20 year old sisters in a camper until Dad could send for me. I moved back to Mass with Dad and begun to raise Heck. spoiled, defiant, and mouthy. Dad didnt know what to do with me, after losing my brother he was so afraid of losing me he was just numb. Never heard from Ma. started smoking and drinking and sleeping around at 14, sneaked cars, sneaked out, lied, skipped school and got in trouble in school big time, eventually quit at the end of my second year in 11th grade, got preggo at 17 with an older guy who was an alcoholic, but damn cute. had my son my gfg, lived with my Dad and somehow turned in to the goodie 2 shoes. I still went out to clubs and had some boyfriends but nothing compared to the earlier years. Then I got my GED, went to college, all the time working. Ended up boyfriendless for years, took care of my ailing Dad, paid all the bills became super mom to gfg, (he never saw any guys or bad behaviour from me) in his eyes I have always been square. I follow every rule, every speed limit, dont cheat, lie, smoke or drink. I pay all my bills on time. Dad died, I buried him and paid for it all by myself.
I met dh when gfg was 12, I knew him through friends, he was married and quite frankly I was never the least bit attracted or interested in him. His wife died of Leaukemia, it was New Year's Eve and I had eve's dropped on a conversation he was having with my friend (his friends wife) about how his wife was in a coma and they didnt think she would wake up, I just felt for him, From then on I couldnt get him out of my head, about 6 months later, we were talking about him and my friend was saying how lonely he was etc... how he couldnt date but needed companionship, asked if I would "hang out" with him while gfg was in SUmmer camp, I said sure, and the rest is history. We have been together ever since, opposites to the core but love each other a ton.

Thats the short version..
Grace

[mstang67chic]

I was somewhere in the middle between a goody-goody and gfg but with all of the gfg-like behavior around me, it's a wonder I turned out the way I did.

I grew up in a very "educational" environment. Parents (mom and step-dad who adopted me at the age of 7) were good people with good ideals on how you are as a person but they did enjoy their vices. A lot of alcohol, pills and various "herbs" with the occasional harder drugs now and then. (Mostly then but still showed up) We had legendary parties in the summer.....you know, the kind where there were people passed out in the yard the next morning. We lived in the country and helicopters used to buzz our house trying to tell if that patch of green behind the pole barn was horseweeds or just weed. (Both) Through all of that though, I still had rules, bedtimes, grade expectations, etc. (My mom is a big one with "do as I say, not as I do") Once I hit 16 and got my license I started having my own fun. Didn't really drink or drug (I'm another one that can get stoned off of an Advil) but I did enjoy quite the sex-ed lifestyle and started smoking ciggies. I was smart though, and kept it out of my school. Everyone there thought I was a goody-goody when it came to sex. (I was also quite the dork at school so I'm sure that helped!LOL) I drank maybe a handful of times before I was 21 and have only smoked weed 3 times in my life. (Last time was almost 18 years ago) Although, I do have to say that while I have no desire to be around it, I do like the smell of it. (Reminds me of home maybe??? LOL) I'm still not a big drinker to this day though. I have no tolerance for it and don't care for the taste of most of it. The sleepig around thing was my biggie. By the time I met Dh when I was 23, it had slowed down a little but basically it lasted until I met him. We got married 1 1/2 years after we met and the rest is history. Dh wasn't really a bad boy either. He's done his share of drinking (but not to an excess) and tried weed and one other thing but hated it. His big thing seemed to be getting married. His first lasted 6 months, second was less than a year. Then he met me and finally got it right! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/winks.gif[/img] We've been married 12 1/2 years now and still going strong.

[goldenguru]

I was a parents dream child. Never got into trouble. Did well in high school. Respected my parents. My husband was the same way. He was a breeze and a joy to his parents.

In some ways, I think it was harder for us to parent a troubled teen. I had absolutely NO basis to understand rebellion, angst or her adolescence. I just couldn't understand where she was coming from. It was really difficult.

Fortunately, my best friend, was a major GFG when she was growing up. And she really tried to help me understand and to be understanding toward my daughter. Otherwise, I would have been more clueless than I already was.

[Abbey]

I was a secret GFG. I guess I was smart enough not to get caught. Well...there were a few times. My parents were VERY strict. I had a 8pm curfew my senior year in high school. Unfortunaly this led me to lie to them a lot.

Had my first drink at 13...Everclear, non less. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/23_34_2.gif[/img]

Got picked up for shoplifting. That was a load of fun. When you live in a very small town, everyone knows EVERYTHING. Through my mother's request, they cuffed me, took my photo, the whole nine yards. It scared the [censored] out of me.

Thought about running away many times. Well, you do NOT run away when you live in South Dakota. First of all, there is no place to go. Secondly, it's likely to be below zero. I remember having my hand on the door handle with my backpack filled then thinking...what AM I thinking?? It's -10 out!!

Got suspended from school my senior year for breaking into our local publisher's office to change the April Fool's edition of our high school paper. (I was the editor.) In private, my principal chuckled and said it was a valiant attempt.

Probably normal rebellious kid stuff. I know one thing - I never hurt anyone. To me, that is the difference between normal kid stuff and a GFG.

Abbey

[hearts and roses]

Oh wow, I am feeling so much better now! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whew.gif[/img]

It's been so much fun reading about everyone's lives, the ups, the downs, the gfg-ness, and even the so-called pcs!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rofl.gif[/img]

[Dammit Janet]

What tickles me is that you so called gfg's running away as teens! Hello...I started my running away when I was 5!!!! I could swap stories for days...lol.

[Suz]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My mom would never have let me hang out with you guys!! </div></div>

My mother wouldn't either...




....but I sure am glad to hang out with you guys NOW! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bigsmile.gif[/img]




Suz