so i got to thinking because i kinda had to. alot of times when a kid is in their sick stage regardless the dx and we're on high warrior mom mode, talking to new doctors etc. giving history we often are faced with our pasts whatever they may be to figure otu the present to some extent.
as i looked back on gfg i had to be honest, take the rose colored glasses off and really delve into the negative influences that have affected her thru the years. her dad being a huge piece of that. which is kinda sad because quite honestly he himself needs help and has never gotten it. he honestly cannot control his behaviors his anxiety, paranoia and ocd is just too major to hide.
i too have made my share of mistakes thru the years. dh and i had a real rocky start 4 years ago bigtime.
now, did i or her environmental factors create the situation now, no ofcourse not. yet kids like ours are highly sensitive and pick up on just about anything. it's almost like you have to self monitor all the time almost in regards to any type of negativity in the home. often i've come to find that environment can def. make our gfg's behavior worse. and yea we cant' control everything sometimes you just gotta roll w/it, yet other things i think we can control to some extent, or make positive changes.
i was drinking my coffee today and my mind began to go here. you know, modeling the right behaviors for them to see, conflict resolution with our sometimes pain in the butt other halfs that we love yet at times would like to ship off to sea. i think we all feel that on occassion. it's hard to live w/other ppl in the mist of what our kids can bring.
so, i spent time thinking about this. kinda know in my own mind changes i'd like to see in my family. pc adhering to counseling to work out her issues w/gfg and the jealousy i think she's felt for years. a few other things my mind is still working on.
so, anyone agree w/me on the environmental factors? and if so, what types of things if any do you think you would like to see change in your family dynamic if you had a magic wand what would you change to improve our gfg's behaviors and our overall way of life??
yup always thinking i know, it would be the ocd in me