I wanted to snatch her up by her dumb blonde head

[EStephens]

Gfg and I went into the grocery store for groceries. He hates crowds and just town in general so he was already stimming as we walked in the doors.
We saw a friend of gfg with his dad. We spoke briefly and gfg actually was almost involved in the conversation. Gfg asked the kiddo of he would like to come to our house and play a new game that he had received for his birthday. The kid slowly looked at me, then gfg and said,"I wish I could but my mom says you are a freak now and I can't hang out with you."
I grabbed GFG's hand and walked away. The kid's mom was someone I thought was my friend.
After I thought I had cooled off, I called the heifer and at least she was honest and admitted to saying that and believing it. She said she loved hanging out with me and pcs but gfg was just too much for her and she didn't want her kids to start picking up on his actions. I informed the heifer that Asperger's was not contagious,but stupidity was already rampant in her home and she should be more worried about that.
I know I need to call and apologize for being rude. I am just not quite ready to.

Gfg has been on a mission googling what the term freak means. He is handling it much better then his momma is.
Advice please???

[Wiped Out]

I would be so beyond ticked!!!! I think she deserved what you said to her! I'm sorry this happened. She is definitely not teaching her son to be a very tolerant person. I can't tell you how angry I am on your behalf!

[TeDo]

I don't think you owe her an apology unless she is willing to apologize for calling your son a freak and teaching her kids to call him the same thing. She "wronged" first so the first apology should be hers.

So sorry you are having to deal with this. It really hoovers that a "friend" would treat your son the same way opinionated, "perfect" people do. I really feel for you.

{{{{HUGS}}}} to you and gfg.

[recoveringenabler]

"The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits."
That quote by Albert Einstein fits your story. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a small mind.

[EStephens]

Thanks guys! I appreciate the encouragement. She just definitely scratched herself from the Christmas Card List.

[slsh]

I informed the heifer that Asperger's was not contagious,but stupidity was already rampant in her home and she should be more worried about that.

Oh, hon - this was genius!

Seriously, though - I'm so sorry that you had this come at you from a "friend." It has never ceased to amaze me the things that come out of people's mouths, and the reactions to various disabilities.

Development of rhino skin is essential to parenting a kid with differences. I know it's so hurtful to hear this kind of junk, but..... some people just aren't going to get it - parents, friends, family, and total strangers. OTOH, sometimes you will be surprised by the unexpected people who *do* get it.

I'm absolutely incensed any parent would label another child a "freak." Are you kidding me? It just burns my toast that a parent would encourage that kind of intolerance. At the same time, I feel sorry for these kinds of people, because one never knows when fate or karma or just plain old bad luck may strike and their "perfect" lives may become somewhat less than perfect - they are so unprepared for differences.

Glad gfg is handling it okay. Sometimes people just really inhale rapidly.

[lovelyboy]

This is sickening!!!!!
She deserved your anger.....Hope she also realized how much she hurt you!!!
Like my husband said this morning: Our gfg's are all Gods creations....and other people need to remember this!
Lots of hugs!

[StepTo2]

I loved your response to her.

Freak. SHE is the true freak. GRRRRRRR. OK, I'm passing a bit of judgment but DANG.

[TerryJ2]

Arrrrgghgh!
I am so sorry!
I'm trying to think back on all the things I've said about my kids' friends and thankfully, I don't think I've ever said, "freak." "Stoned," "Spoiled," maybe even loser, but argh ... how painful.
Kids repeat things. We all need to remember that.
But in this case, it's actually good that the kid repeated it and got it out in the open. Better that the mom get her education elsewhere, if she is so inclined, while you fight more imporant battles.
Many, many hugs.

[Fran]

It's so painful when adults say things like that and their kids pick up on it. I'm sorry for your pain.