I just want to run away from home......permanently.
Gfg2 has been in the community theater productions for 5 years now. That's his "thing". As they were rehearsing this year's play, they realized that it would look better if there was a REAL person playing the dead body. Gfg2 asked gfg1 if he wanted to and gfg1 was so excited, we normally have separate activities because of the competition and "territory" factors. Gfg2 has tried some of gfg1's activities but didn't like them so it was never an issue really. Gfg1 has never tried any of gfg2's activities so this was a first......and a surprise that gfg2 would even want him to considering he is constantly saying gfg1 embarrasses him. Anyway, they've been doing great.
Last night, gfg2 spent the night at my mom's with my sister and niece. Needless to say, he didn't get much sleep. Gfg1 went to his horseback riding practice then went to rehearsal late. As soon as he got there, gfg2 hid his shoes. Gfg1 got mad so gfg2 finally told him where they were. Gfg1 got bored waiting for his turn on staage and was twirling some prop guns on his fingers. Gfg2 came in after his part was done and took them away from gfg1. Gfg1 let him. When gfg1 came back from his part, he asked for them back. Gfg2 refused and gfg1 was "stuck" so they started wrestling over them. Gfg2 hid them and gfg1 did his "tough guy" act to try to intimidate gfg2 (gfg1 is 4'8" & 70#; gfg2 is 5'10" & 190# so you can imagine). Gfg2 grabbed gfg1 by the back of the neck and squeezed. Gfg1 texted me to come get him. He came out with his entire costume (his own set of clothes) and said he quits. Keep in mind they start performances tomorrow. When gfg2 came into the van, he immediately apologized to gfg1 who had confided in me that he hates his life and wants to drown himself.
Gfg2 has always been gfg1's "safety" and he's emotionally attached to gfg2 (though he'd deny it) and was so honored that gfg2 wanted to share HIS activity with gfg1. Then he does something so immature and mean. When I try talking to either one of them to explain the other's point of view, NEITHER of them seems to be capable of it. That seems to be the only ASD trait they share and it drives me absolutely bananas. I just want to give up. I don't know what to do to get through to either one of them.
I know, things have been overall positive but then we have days like this and it's almost like PTSD for ME!!