ES, gfg1 does the same thing!! Are you sure your gfg and my gfg1 are not twins (actually triplets because gfg1 already has a real life twin). LOL!!!
ES, gfg1 does the same thing!! Are you sure your gfg and my gfg1 are not twins (actually triplets because gfg1 already has a real life twin). LOL!!!
It gets better, I promise. I (eventually) learned that the rest-of-the-world doesn't think the way I do and I'd better ask questions to clarify when I'm not sure.
It results in a lot of conversations such as: "When you asked me to warm up the car, did you mean to turn on the engine and let it run or also turn on the heater?"
But it's better than the "Why didn't you <fill-in-the-blank> like I asked you to??!!" that I used to get as a child and teenager.
Me: 44 yrs old "Aspie-lite".
DH: 56 yrs old, love of my life.
Step-D: 35 yr old girl. Growing up, at last, but very slooowly.
GFG: 23 yr old boy. Asperger's, Bipolar, Seroquel SR. Lamictal. Not my bio-son, but MY boy. Living independently!
PC: 11 yr old boy, SID, Dyslexia, Anxiety, Asthma, my joy. A charmer.
Tyrantina: 3 yr-old girl. Rapid mood cycling. ASD-ish.
Tyrannosaur: 3 yr-old boy. Mad scientist. Clear Asperger's signs.
Priceless! Love it.
Me- Bipolar I, SAHM
DH-Good person
GFG1- 19 y/o DD - Moved away to college
GFG2 - 17 y/o DS - High Functioning Autism, severe hearing loss
Interesting. For ME? The biggest problems happen when I am sure that I know what is expected.I (eventually) learned that the rest-of-the-world doesn't think the way I do and I'd better ask questions to clarify when I'm not sure.
We're trying to teach the kids to ALWAYS confirm, at least unless it is totally routine -same people, same house, e.g. the example this thread started with... where, if it were the house I grew up in, the expectation would actually have been one can not one case...
It's also a very (VERY) long learning curve to try to teach DH that the rest of us can't read HIS mind any better than HE can read OURS...
TeDo, I am starting to wonder about the whole twin thing. It is nice to know someone is in the trenches with me!!
Today, gfg "worked on" his tree. Its a good sized oak tree that he has nailed steps to. He has also built a bench to sit in it. The bench is about 12 feet up the tree. And he is as mad as the dickens that I won't let him sleep on his bench. (the bench is two 2 by 4's nailed together).
I wish I was paid by the times I shake my head or roll my eyes (out of view of course) by his ideas. I think I could be a bazillionaire!
Me-28 wife & momma. Quite sassy, ornery,and outspoken.
DH-32-stepdad to GFG big kid & pc middle kid, daddy to PC little kid. An OEF/OIF Marine veteran with severe PTSD and TBI. Too many meds to count.
GFG- Big Kid- 10 years old. Was diagnosed with ADHD at age 2 & Asperger's at age 9. Medications include Vyvanse & Imiprimine.
PC- Middle Kid- 7 years old. Ornery & mischievous like his momma. My comedic relief. Very neurotypical.
PC- Little Kid- 4 years old. Absolutely a lil Diva. Quite sassy.
ES... in fact, he COULD sleep there. Just don't tell him that. It would take him about 10 years to "get there"... and he won't want to get the experience. But, experienced mountain climbers do the equivalent... it involves a mummy-style sleeping bag, and really good knowledge of ropes, and you basically tie yourself to the "ledge". But... you have to know what you're doing. And of course, GFG won't believe THAT.
The really literal stuff, I can handle. I can see where they are coming from.
But... the "extreme" stuff is still really hard to navigate, because it IS possible (just not likely and not all that safe).
InsaneCdn -
Oh sweet Jesus, I can not let my sweet little adventurer know this!!! He already possess a mummy bag because he likes the tightness of it.
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Me-28 wife & momma. Quite sassy, ornery,and outspoken.
DH-32-stepdad to GFG big kid & pc middle kid, daddy to PC little kid. An OEF/OIF Marine veteran with severe PTSD and TBI. Too many meds to count.
GFG- Big Kid- 10 years old. Was diagnosed with ADHD at age 2 & Asperger's at age 9. Medications include Vyvanse & Imiprimine.
PC- Middle Kid- 7 years old. Ornery & mischievous like his momma. My comedic relief. Very neurotypical.
PC- Little Kid- 4 years old. Absolutely a lil Diva. Quite sassy.
More importantly, you need to start thinking about how you will handle it when HE figures out what mountain climbers do (if that becomes one of his interests)... Somehow, we have to stay ahead of our GFGs if we can...
Lol sounds like you know my son!! Usually it is always a matter of when not if.
Is that a trait most Aspie's possess?
Me-28 wife & momma. Quite sassy, ornery,and outspoken.
DH-32-stepdad to GFG big kid & pc middle kid, daddy to PC little kid. An OEF/OIF Marine veteran with severe PTSD and TBI. Too many meds to count.
GFG- Big Kid- 10 years old. Was diagnosed with ADHD at age 2 & Asperger's at age 9. Medications include Vyvanse & Imiprimine.
PC- Middle Kid- 7 years old. Ornery & mischievous like his momma. My comedic relief. Very neurotypical.
PC- Little Kid- 4 years old. Absolutely a lil Diva. Quite sassy.
JJJ...I so know the literal. Billy is extremely literal. We used to say it was like programming a computer when talking to him. One day we told Billy to watch the bacon while we got the rest of the groceries out of the car. Well he stood there and watched the bacon burn to a crisp never bothering to take it out of the pan or turn the stove off or any of the other many things normal people would do to keep bacon from burning up. Now believe me, he knew how to cook bacon.
He was also once asked to watch Cory while I ran Jamie about a mile and a half up the road to his baseball practice. On the way home I see the both walking up the road! I stop and put them in the car and am furious. I ask Billy...didnt I tell you to watch Cory? Yes, and he started walking out the door and said he wanted to go up to the baseball field to watch Jamie so he was going to walk there. Cory was 5. So Billy decides to let him walk and followed him and watched him. Hello?
Janet, 1/17/62,BP, BPD, Arthritis,degenerative disc disease, PTSD, Fibro, taking a pharmacy it seems
Tony,9/24/62, Partner since 1983
Oldest Son (Billy) 4/30/81 M Aspie but not dxd.
Middle Son (Jamie) 7/11/84. ADHD Success Story, works with the sheriffs dept now
Youngest son (Cory) 7/24/86, TDD/ADHD. My GFG, working as a cell phone tower climber.
4 Grandchildren Keyana born 6/6/06, Hailie born 7/15/07, Mikey born 9/29/09 and McKenzie born 9/28/11.
Two Furkids Buddy a Havanese and Abby a mixed American Bull/Pit bull. Both are a bit GFG.
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