It is so nice to be able to complain to someone who understands. . . . .
Anyway - We recently started using a BSC and a TSS worker (about 6 weeks.) The BSC is fantastic. She has been making me aware of behaviors that I haven't even taken notice of in years. She is very non-judgemental and great with DS. She is constantly putting choices for his behavior back on him. He actually responds well to her.
The TSS worker is another story. She is new at this. Finished her training with my son. I did mention to the agency that I did not think it was a good idea to give my son a new TSS worker but they seemed to think differently. It seems that she thinks her job is to play games with my son on her phone. Last week I had told him that he needed to pick up his three items from the livingroom minutes before she arrived. She came in and started playing games with him. I reminded him that I he needed to pick up and put away the three items and she said it could wait until they were done. Needless to say . . . it wasn't done. I should have stood firm but did not want to cause problems.
I am done feeling that way.
DS needed to start working on an assignment for school that is due this Friday. When the TSS worker arrived I cut her off when she attempted to engage DS in a game. He was not happy and refused to do the work. The usual nonsense - "I have until Friday, I don't know how to write, I don't understand it, this is stupid", etc. I attempted to get him to do the work by asking him questions that should have gotten him on the right track. (By the way, he is an honor roll student. There really isn't any excuse for this other than a behavioral issue.) The TSS worker just sat there and pretty much did nothing other than make a couple of comments that were not helpful.
After about an hour I had enough. I told him that since he was chosing to not do the assignment he could go brush his teeth and go to bed. He then needed a drink. I told him he could have some water after brushing his teeth, but the brushing would occur first. Then he was hungry - sorry. Then he decided he wanted to do the assignment after all - sorry, time to brush your teeth. I had to practically push him up the steps to get to the bathroom so he could slam the door in my face.
The TSS worker just couldn't believe he would act like that. (Why does she think he qualifies for services, because I don't know how to play games with him???) She just couldn't understand what had gotten into him. I tried to explain that this is him - not every day but often enough.
I am done with her. I am going to call the agency tomorrow and tell them that I will just keep the BSC and drop the TSS. What exactly are they supposed to do anyway? This is my first experience with a TSS worker and while she is very nice, this seems like a waste of our time.
Anyway, I just wanted to vent! Thanks for reading.