at things I shouldn't laugh at.
Gfg2 bit a staff member at RTC. Now in no is this funny however after asking if they were pressing charges (this is something we discussed today at the staffing that needed to start happening) we were told they hadn't yet but that the staff member was a bit upset as this was a second time in a week he had been bitten. I got off the phone and started to giggle. Dh knew I had been on the phone with staff from gfg2s rtc with what I had been saying. So he asked what was funny. I told him and for some reason it was contagious because I just wanted to know if this guy tastes like chicken or what. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/devil.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/1010hammer.gif[/img] Can you tell it has been a long few days.
Let us take a step back to recap these days. I posted about the eval with gfg2 being done so at the staffing today we did some discussing of what we are going to do now. Looks like we are going to start a paper trail (hence the charges when he does the violent stuff) so that when the time comes we have some ground work established to make decisions for the future. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whew.gif[/img] We are also going to work on a new therapist. He refuses to work with the one he has so we really have little option however since we had the eval we are going to let him know that they recommended we make some changes (which they did but we aren't going to be specific at this point as to what they are). He has little idea that we will be preparing for adult facilities/commitment. We decided as a group that it would be detrimental to tell him this early. Because one never knows if a miracle could happen. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/faint.gif[/img]
Also in talking to the one therapist I said one of my fears if he was released at 18 is the violence he might do to me and his biomom ( I know we are who he blames most for his predicament he is in though it was his behavior that landed him where he is) the therapist said yes [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/slap.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grrr.gif[/img] and probably both sisters would be his other targets. I really wasn't sure that I should be afraid until she confirmed it. Not really what I wanted on top of everything else. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] I said if they let him go after all the work we do and he really isn't ready I move and not leave a forwarding address. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/scared.gif[/img]
We are going to continue to seek out what will be the best path for gfg2. This is going to be a very long journey. One hopes we have the stamina to go the long haul. We have many plans to ponder and it seems that everyone is on the same page which is scary and wonderful all at the same time.
We are going to the christmas party on Thursday. We are also going to surprise him on the 26th and bring him home for a couple hours. I am looking at the house and I am terrified. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy2.gif[/img] I have to gfg proof. I just hope we make it through the day when he is here.
Yesterday we had a session with gfg1. She had a meltdown because I told her she needed to use her glasses while she was reading. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/1010hammer.gif[/img] We are talking major meltdown (throwing plates etc). She informed everyone she was going to her room and was not coming back out because of "my negativity". [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/surprise.gif[/img] Well that was interesting. In the end she did come out of it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumb.gif[/img] but it was a bit sad that we revisited behavior from many moons ago. I am hoping that it is because of the holidays. At least that is what I am telling myself.
GFG1 is coming home for a visit the 29th - 31st. This should be ok ( I am going to repeat that over and over until I believe it).
We did get things fixed with the mistaken worker for gfg1. She is now going to be working on the transition things. So excited to get her on our page. But not sure when she is going to meet with us. Because we have been doing sessions on Sundays she just can't meet us then. And of course the Saturday we pick gfg1 up she isn't available and won't be there on the Monday the 31st because of the holiday then too. I realize that you know I am expecting a lot to know who is working with my daughter. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] So If we can't work it out (as in dh and I drive the three hours to meet her and then drive back on a weekday when gfg1 is in school) then we will have to wait until March at the next staffing. I am not liking that at all. But I will cross that bridge in January.
Now to top it off I couldn't turn on my computer last night [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/throwpc.gif[/img] (must have been my negativity). So dh started running some diagnostics (bless his computer geek heart [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/geek.gif[/img]) and found I had six Trojan Horse Virus'. I wanted to cry. But as you all can see I am back. Dh worked his magic. Now if we could have a break.
PC is gone when the gfgs are here as none of the kids can be together at the same time yet. So she is wound up [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/23_34_2.gif[/img](what she usually does before going to her bio dads) and we are dealing with her ever changing moods because of that.
I am wanting to run away after the first of the year just for a bit. I just have to find a safe refuge. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bath.gif[/img] Cuz the things I am finding funny are starting to be disturbing. Sorry for the long ramble. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/1010hammer.gif[/img]