We were supposed to have a hearing yesterday to decide on jurisdiction, which would mean another court date two weeks later and then she'd go home (the social worker said that's his recommendation). But the SW did not file the paperwork until 2 hours before the trial, and both of our lawyers wanted to put it off a week. They did drop the felony charge of child abuse from DH since it's obvious to them now what's going on. It makes me mad that all this gets put off a week because the SW didn't do his job. The case is open, but the charges are gone.
We saw the county mental therapist today and went over DD's issues, and I told her about the big eval the school did last year (which included full ASD and psychologist eval) where she'll be able to get better info from that than from us. They confirmed that they can not medicate her at all. We'd have to sign off on any medication and she's only going to see a therapist, not a psychiatrist.
The SW called DH just now and said that he could pick her up on Monday and take her to school. She's staying at a home in another city, about 20 min South of us and they're having issues getting her to and from school. This means we get to spend time with her unsupervised (gosh, we could run to Mexico if we were lying about everything, so they seem to trust us). I don't know if it's just Monday morning or if it'll be every back and forth until we get her back. Obviously, this is very good news. I'll finally be able to talk to my baby! She holds things back when people are listening.
And then...when I saw her yesterday she was wearing a bra. She's in 4th grade, not developed at all, rail thin like her Dad (not underweight, but like no fat). This made me very upset afterwards when I was stewing on it. That is a rite of passage and they totally ruined it!!! She didn't want to talk about it (because of the person supervising us) but my hunch is it was a hand me down from one of the other girls in the house, there are three others, 10, 13, & 17. She's sensory seeking and likes to have things tied around her (belts, scarves, she's tied herself to her chair at school before) and my guess is she wanted the sensory input. So not okay.