Don't know what to do with this kid, I swear.
Onyxx informed DH we had no right to go through her room. She will dress however she wants and we can't stop her. The rules are "retarded". She shouldn't have to be on house arrest. She only smoked pot "once" last month and she didn't think she would be tested... AND she didn't know when the test was.
We could have the rest of her clothes, because obviously we didn't care about her feelings. We threw out everything she's "comfortable" in. "We" shouldn't change everything on her. It was "our" fault she went to juvie.
This is after DH allowed her to call her two friends that actually CARE about her. Even though house arrest said no. She wanted to text the third - but after that hissy fit? Nope.
She made a complete mess of her clean room. I told her that she would need to clean it up during part of her calm time. This was after she begged me to call the PO and send her back because at least there she wasn't stressed out. Did get her talked down from that. However... Later she threw ANOTHER fit, AFTER I had gone to bed. Knew I wouldn't get much sleep. Complaining, crying, arguing, sounded like she was shoving furniture around in her room (probably was). Of course this raises my blood pressure b/c I'm waiting for the extreme blowup. At one point DH came in and asked what the police # was, he thought he was going to have to call the squad for transport. (Beating HARD on the walls of her room.)
Poor Jett - he did find an out though. Kids across the street have a pool! He was there for HOURS. I do NOT blame him.
DH and I - in between her hissies - were in our room talking quietly for about 3 minutes - she's managed to violate almost every behavior rule so far. No physical violence toward people - she knows that's a fast ticket to incarceration. But acknowledging us speakoing to her, being respectful, tantrums, whining and demands, respect for others' property, and refusal to comply - Gone. She had no privileges to begin with due to house arrest - now she's on the brink of really screwing herself up.
Oh yeah - she would be "better off" on her own. She could get a part time job, pay for her own apartment, get her own things, and she'd be fine.
...I wonder if she has any CLUE how expensive even ONE person is! Part time. Uh huh. She's not even old enough yet to GET a job. Wow.
I'm stuck between disappointment, anger and total disbelief...