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recoveringenabler

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    1. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      Ill have to figure that out
    2. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      I would love to be able to communicate with you more. I appreciate that. May I give you some back story?
      1. recoveringenabler
        recoveringenabler
        Sure, do it in a private conversation Awakening, it's easier, this profile only allows so many characters.
        Aug 13, 2017
    3. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      And that's why I asked if you "sponsor"...my son will be 28 this month and lives in another state. Since I stopped enabling him our relationship is almost non-existent..so I no longer get asked for anything..he doesn't keep in touch at all and I'm grieving that I guess. thank you for listening
      1. recoveringenabler
        recoveringenabler
        You're welcome, if you'd like to continue communicating, it would be easier if you private message me here....we're allowed to elaborate more there.....there is a lot of grief with our difficult kids....I understand completely.
        Aug 13, 2017
    4. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      RE, thank you for your kindness. I currently attend Alanon mtgs. I've seen it take multiple years to reach the level of acceptance & detachment that you have with your ad child. When you "unofficially" meet someone who knows the struggle & has gone way beyond it, it gives me hope.
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    5. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      Your group sounds pretty great. I'm currently attending alanon and although the focus is on me I am looking for someone who has the issues with their adult child but has gotten to the place of acceptance self love and care. Thanks for responding RE.
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      2. recoveringenabler
        recoveringenabler
        If I can help in any way, Awakening, let me know.
        Aug 13, 2017
    6. Awakening1990
      Awakening1990
      Hello RE, thank you for your experience, strength and hope. I too have joined a group of like minded people and I'm learning how to detach from my son's choices and the outcome of those choices...I know I can't do it without the help of those who have gone before me. This is a shot in the dark, but in the group that you attend do you sponsor? Thanks
      1. recoveringenabler
        recoveringenabler
        Hi Awakening1990. The group I'm in is thru the HMO I belong to. The group I entered is not about enabling or adult kids, it's actually a process group. We all share our feelings and what has consistently occurred is that we end up talking about self love and acceptance often. It has really been helpful for me. Are you looking for a group?
        Aug 12, 2017
    7. Ditto
      Ditto
      25 year old daughter lives with me for free with a 3yo daughter. She curses me out and has even hit me. All I ask of her is to do the dishes and care for her child. It's like pulling teeth to get her to do them consistently.Not working or going to school.The sanctity of my home is all I have as I am disabled although not officially but working from home.I was an awesome Mom. I don't like feeling sorry for myself.
    8. Mom
      Mom
      This is the 1st support group I have ever joined. Still trying to figure out how it all works.
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    67year old grandmother of a bright, pretty, perceptive teenager, mother of a highly dysfunctional daughter, wife of a wonderful, loving, gentle man, member of an exclusive club of parents and grandparents who have been touched by madness.

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    Me- 67 year old healthy optimist
    husband- gentle, funny, loving soul, who is my best friend and greatest support
    difficult child- 43 year old bio daughter, not diagnosed but fits numerous mental illness'
    We've raised our 20 year old granddaughter who has headed off to college.


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