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    Has anyone tried EMDR therapy?

    I found it very helpful. At some point I will go back for more. I hope when you get in, you will find it helpful.
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    My teenage son is urinating in his room

    If they are choosing to not stop to pee because they are playing a video game, there is a fairly easy fix. Get rid of the video games. If that is too extreme for you, set up a system where every so often your son has to stop and try to use the toilet before he can play again. Use a timer and go...
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    Should I be afraid

    Getting help for yourself is crucial. I want you to say something out loud. It won't be easy, even if you are alone. My oldest son was very violent with us when he was younger. He came close to permanently harming both his sister and I. Late one night, I called a crisis helpline. The person on...
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    Tough Love

    I am not here as often as I used to be. I just read your posts today. I am so sorry that you have to live this struggle. Please, I beg you, give yourself a break. You did not cause your daughter to be this way. Some people are just born that way. You have always done the best you can for her. I...
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    Yet another meeting with Borderline (BPD) team

    I am so very sorry that you are having to ride this ugly ride. I wish there was a better way to help her. Sadly, right now you need to focus more on yourself. I understand completely that you would not tolerate this from anyone on the planet except your child. They do have people who will...
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    Genetic risk factor for Bipolar disorder

    Thanks for sharing this. I will share it with Wiz. It may be helpful. I will also share it with my niece, who has a lot of bipolar in her mother's family.
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    Crashing on Focalin

    It sure sounds like rebound. Sometimes you have to tolerate it so that the rest of their day is tolerable for them and everyone around it. But some things can help. Both of my boys have a problem when they eat too much sugar. It runs in my family. Even my supersweet T would get mean if he...
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    T is Graduating College!!!!!!

    Hi everyone! Things are going pretty well here as far as the kids. My big news is that T is graduating with aa double major in Management Information Systems and Accounting!! In just under 3 weeks!!!! He doesn't want a party or anything big or fancy, but he is so excited!! He doesn't have a...
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    How to cope

    I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. It is never easy to watch your child make such huge mistakes that could have such a huge impact on the rest of their life. Please don't bail him out no matter how much he begs. I am using "substance abuse" in this post instead of...
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    And so it continues…

    I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this. I hope that at some point he chooses to straighten up his life and relationships.
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    New here. 23 yr old son, a familiar tale, I'm sure.

    You have a lot going on. I am sorry that your son is dealing with substance abuse. Sadly, it isn't just a "him" thing. It is a family thing. His substance abuse has made your entire family sick (dysfunctional). All the love in the world can't fix this, and that is one of the hardest things for a...
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    My son has passed away…

    I just saw this. I am so very sorry. He was such a neat person in so many ways. He truly did find so much about weather to be beautiful. I am so sorry that you are hurting this way and that your family is hurting this way. I am here if you need to reach out. (((((hugs))))) to your entire family.
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    My daughter Is refusing help/relapses almost immediately

    I am so sorry that you have to deal with all of this. You need to figure out a way to stop giving her things. Every penny that you give her is another penny of her own that is available for drugs. Addicts don't usually get better until they hit bottom and are so sick of the druggie life that...
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    6 months today

    Do you go to AlAnon? If not, I highly recommend it. Addiction issues are family issues. AlAnon really helped me deal with the history of drinking and codependent behavior in my family, along with my brother. If you just go to one or two meetings and feel uncomfortable, it is easy to give up. If...
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    Five years into an adoption and the issues keep getting more complicated for my 9 year old son

    I think that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is highly likely. He could also be very high functioning autistic. I have some ideas and some concrete things that may help. This is probably going to be a long reply. Bear with me. First, I think you need to read"The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Then you need to read...
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    New Diagnosis Unsure of Path Forward

    He is doing really well. We lost my mom a few days after Christmas, and that has been hard on him. It is part of why I worry. But he is doing well. The people he works with just love him. He seems to be doing well, but I worry. I have not said anything one way or another about it to him. Thanks.
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    New Diagnosis Unsure of Path Forward

    Wiz comes by to chat every couple of weeks. about 3 weeks ago we had a pretty long visit. He casually mentioned that he was given a schizophrenia diagnosis a couple of years ago. I was really shocked. It is a disease that has always scared me. He did not do well on any of the medications he tried. His...
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    More things change the more the stay the same.

    I am so very sorry. It is hard when your child is in trouble, no matter how old he is. I really understand what Copa is saying. My StepMIL used to work in prisons all over the world. This won't be easy for you in any way. I know how hard it was for my mother when she had to deal with my...
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    Duping delight.

    Some people just enjoy lying to others. Their lies make them feel big or important or powerful. She clearly believes her lies will not have consequences. I am not sure how a therapist would diagnose this. I do know it isn't fun to be at the mercy of someone like this. My brother lied so much to...
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    Germaphobe son driving us over the edge

    My son was on SSRI medications well before age 13. Without them, he obsessed over very dangerous things (knives, blood, guns and more) and had a very difficult time even thinking about anything else. It was scary for our entire family to have a child who obsessed over these things. Without medications...
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