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    MrMike: Still in the same boat as 4 years ago

    Thank you all for your wisdom and encouragement. It really does help hearing that it's possible that this problem can get better, and that I can do what I need to do to not enable my son and to protect and reclaim my family. I will keep in touch !
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    MrMike: Still in the same boat as 4 years ago

    SomewhereOutThere, thanks for your advice. I agree with it. I know I need to do it. I know it is right. Being honest though, I guess I must view him as helpless, because I always feel like if we kick him out he won't be able to survive. He is so messed up in his thinking that it seems to...
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    blaming myself

    Bluebell, this is what this website is for. People like you and me who have people in their lives that cause them pain and suffering, and we need the support and advice of others (and love) to learn how to cope with it, but not just cope with it, but to be victorious over it. Glad we can help...
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    blaming myself

    I agree whole-heartedly with Lil and others here. You're story I think is right at the heart of the detachment thing. You are only responsible for your actions. The other people in this story acted on their own and not because of anything you did. They are responsible for their own actions...
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    MrMike: Still in the same boat as 4 years ago

    Hi there, I last posted here about 4 years ago. Married with 3 children, oldest of which is either bipolar, borderline, narcissistic, or a combo of all three. I have been seeing a counselor for it for years now. The goal was to learn how to change myself to not put up with his terrible...
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    22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with -- PART 2

    Would you guys believe I haven't been on this site for almost 3 years now! I wish I could say things with my son are different, but they are still pretty much the same. We eventually let him back in the house, and for awhile he has been ok. He hasn't broken anything in quite awhile, and...
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    difficult child is off to North Carolina

    Well, he made it ok, and is likely very tired from his drive down there. We will see how long he stays, and how he gets back home when the time comes. It is nice having a break from him. That's all for now I guess. Feeling sort of a letdown now that he is gone for awhile. Not sure what to...
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    difficult child is off to North Carolina

    difficult child decided to visit a friend living in N. Carolina. He has little money, and decided to do a ride-share thing, where he found someone on a ride-share website who was looking for a passenger on their trip down south. difficult child will pay him money for gas, and hopefully get to where he is going. I...
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    Burnt OUT !!!!

    Thanks everyone for your comments, nice to speak with you all again. What a cool group of people you all are. Wish we lived close enough to each other so we could have a get-together and have some laughs about our difficult child's. That would be a hoot. RE, your comment about how your difficult child "sucking all...
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    Burnt OUT !!!!

    Best of luck to you too dstc! I think it's only natural that we get burnt out due to our difficult child situations. Going in and out of crisis mode burns us out. And we need to take a break from dealing with our difficult child in order to recharge a little for the next round.
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    Burnt OUT !!!!

    DaisyFace, I don't think that will be a problem. I will ask for help from my NAMI friend about how to fill out the application. Besides, I'm not sure this will be an issue. The main thing you need in my state is a diagnosis from a psychologist/psychiatrist that he has a certain mental health...
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    Burnt OUT !!!!

    Haven't posted for awhile. difficult child has been home for about 2 weeks, and we're all sick of him. Got him to visit a friend the other day, so he's gone now for a few days anyway. Have been trying to enforce our house rules. He breaks some of them. Just so burned out emotionally at his point ...
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    Much needed advice please.....

    Yeah JKF, I agree with the others, you dont need to call your son about it. You have done everything (and more) for him. This reminds me of something our counselor said to us last time. She said that my difficult child may be mad at me for helping him because he may feel that he knows he should be...
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    Another bump on the difficult child highway

    RE, Sorry I'm a little late on replying, but just wanted to be another voice supporting you, and praying for your situation. You are a great example to us all here how you've worked on and gotten good at detachment. I know it still doesn't make all the pain go away, but seems like the best...
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    He's on his way......

    Good Luck JKF, we're all pulling for you and hoping things turn out great. Hang in there!
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    Something is definitely going on

    JKF, After I read your post where you said your difficult child threatened to kill you and his youngest brother, I wanted to tell you that there's no way he should be in your house again. You are absolutely doing the right thing. His threat is a very serious one, and there's no way you can let him live...
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    Something is definitely going on

    Hoping everything works out for you JKF. You have been through hell and back with this, and I feel for ya. I pray for you and others on this site everyday. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Remember, you did not seek this situation your son finds himself in. He chose it...
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    22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with -- PART 2

    You are right Cedar. It is training myself, and its been a process, which I'm hoping will progress to the point where I feel that he can't hurt me anymore. When he's gone, we all relax and smile. When he's home, we are all walking on eggshells, fearful of the next outburst or verbal abuse...
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    22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with -- PART 2

    Thank you everyone who replied to my post. You guys are so supportive and positive, and I really appreciate it. It helps so much. MrMike
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    22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with -- PART 2

    Yes, that is exactly how my difficult child is. He just keeps hammering away until you give in. He has always just done whatever he wants, without regard to anyone else's requests. He will do what you ask the first time, then revert back to whatever he wants to do. What is it about these kids who do...
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