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I cut off contact with Difficult Son about 4 months ago for reasons that would take too long to explain. I know this is not a nice thing to say, but it is as if my life has clicked into place. Hubs and I purchased a new home, and the best part of that is I know Son won't show up on the...

Me: "Son is in Colorado. Checked himself into detox. Says he's going to ignore his criminal charges and just stay out of state because they won't extradite him." Daughter: "LOL. Great idea." Me: "I don't know how he can mess this up anymore than he has." Daughter: "I've stopped...

As a refresher, my son graduated from a year-long sober living program this summer. It was so wonderful to have him back again! Family members who had long ago given up hope were at his ceremony, cheering him on and celebrating. For the first time in years, he was excited about his future...

Addiction is being inside of a house. A house that’s on fire. And you’re in the bathroom getting high instead of getting out. -Anonymous

My son graduated from his year-long sober living program last month. We attended his graduation, as well as the graduation of his good friend last night. I have gained so much from listening to these young men speak about what they've learned in the program! The best part of it for me is that...

- It is my job to make myself happy. - It is not my job to make anyone else happy. - It is not my job to fix others. - It is not my job to take responsibility for others. - It is okay if others get angry. - It is okay to say no. - It is okay if nobody agrees with me. - I don't have to...

It has been awhile since I have posted consistently. Life has been very busy, in a good way...in large part because we have the energy to live our own lives, now that we are learning to let son live his OWN busy life. When he is no longer taking up more than his share of oxygen in the room we...

My mother died when I was a teenager, many years ago. A friend's mother took me under her wing, for which I am grateful every day. Since then I've made sure to call her on Mother's Day each year. She is well into her 80s now, but still as sweet and sharp as she ever was. She knows a bit...

My son is more than halfway through his year-long residential sober living program. His goal is to learn to live more honestly. He feels he wasn't doing so, which led to shutting down his emotions with substances. Each day brings new challenges, some advances, some setbacks. But through it...

This one really spoke to me this morning. From "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie. "One day, my son brought a gerbil home to live with us. We put it in a cage. Some time later, the gerbil escaped. For the next six months, the animal ran frightened and wild through the house...

The last time I posted, son had just started in a year-long residential sober living facility and I posted about him angry and blaming us for his failure to make his first probation payment timely. He has been at the facility for almost 5 months now, and he has made some changes that are both...

Son is on 2 years' probation and is required to pay court costs at $50 per month. He is in a residential rehab and is required to pay his room and board from his earnings and has been "in the hole" until today, when he received $55. We have visited him each weekend the last couple of weeks and...

It has been awhile since I have posted, though I read the boards almost every day. My son, who in December had gotten out of detox for meth use, showed up at our local airport unexpectedly in February, with nothing but the clothes on his back. We told him he could not stay with us and gave him...

Like other dcs on this board, my son is in a marijuana-legal state. He was working day labor and camping in the woods but fortunately found a job of sorts, working on a weed farm outside of town, in exchange for room and board and free samples of the crop. Pretty much a “dream job” for a Difficult Child. It...

As children bring their broken toys with tears for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to God because He was my friend. But then instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "How can you be...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/presence-mind/201411/12-signs-youre-giving-too-much

Just to get up to speed, Difficult Child is stranded somewhere in the Midwest because we gave him a bus ticket to catch a promised ride to a promised job, neither of which came to pass, and we would not rescue him again. After days of rather nasty demands and berating us for it, then telling us he was...

Difficult Child has been on another cross-country road trip, this time with a buddy in buddy's van. It is obvious from the FB posts and pics that he has spent most of the trip extremely inebriated. For the last couple of months he has been "looking for work" in the Midwest while living with buddy's...