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  1. Kathy813

    More bad new.s.. does it ever end?

    Suicide threats that are used to manipulate others into doing want they want is emotional blackmail. My daughter used to do it all of the time. Don't let it work.
  2. Kathy813

    Reopening the U.S. - What does everyone think...

    The people that say that they don't care if they get the virus and act recklessly should have to sign a statement that says they will not seek medical treatment if they get sick. Why should healthcare workers have to risk exposure to treat them?
  3. Kathy813

    Borderline (BPD)

    ChickPea, when a person stops using, they still exhibit addictive behaviors. They have to work at changing those behaviors. For my daughter, it was NA and a wonderful sponsor who helped my daughter change back into the person she was before her active addiction. She worked through the 12-steps...
  4. Kathy813

    Rising from the apparent dead! I am back.

    Janet! I can't believe the coincidence. I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were doing and then saw this thread. I am sorry that Cory is still struggling. There is always hope, though. My gift-from-god (I just had to use that for old time sakes) has really turned her life...
  5. Kathy813

    Reopening the U.S. - What does everyone think...

    I live in Georgia where the governor is an idiot. I am sure you all saw him on the news when he finally locked down the state. He said he didn't know that asymptomatic people could be contagious. How could he have not known that? It was all over the news and the CDC is literally down the street...
  6. Kathy813

    Borderline (BPD)

    Does your daughter have substance abuse issues? If so, you really can't be sure if it is addiction or mental illness. The behaviors overlap. How do I know? I was sure my daughter had Borderline (BPD). She fit all of the criteria and she actually went through DBT for a while. She was also diagnosed along the...
  7. Kathy813

    DCFS- Group home

    I think that you did the right thing to say no. There is a very good choice that he wouldn't listen and stay home. That would put your family at risk for getting the virus if he went in and out. He is sadly learning that actions have consequences.
  8. Kathy813

    Happy Thanksgiving to all my SA buddies!

    Hi Nomad. Yes, it is the daughter that brought me here so long ago. She has been sober for over 3.5 years, has a great job, and now is marrying the love of her life. For a long time, I thought we would be planning a funeral . . . not a day of joy and celebration. Miracles can happen and there...
  9. Kathy813

    Happy Thanksgiving to all my SA buddies!

    I hope everyone is having a calm, restful day with family and friends. We are expecting our daughters and other relatives to be here soon and am looking forward to spending time with them. It is has been a busy week preparing for Saturday's wedding along with tears saying good-bye to our beloved...
  10. Kathy813

    And the shi* hit the fan

    Busynmember is right. Depression is an illness that can strike anyone in any life circumstances. Depression can lead to drug use but drug use can also lead to depression. There are quite a few studies that link teenage use of marijuana to adult depression...
  11. Kathy813

    Sad, venting, confused

    I am so sorry that you are in such pain. RN is right that the holidays make everything so much worse. I always used to dream of a Norman Rockwell Christmas but finally accepted it was never going to happen once my daughter hit her teen years and started drinking and doing drugs. It seems like...
  12. Kathy813

    Hello

    Hi everywoman. It has been a long time! I am glad to hear that your son is doing better. We spent a lot of time here on the site together over the years. I am happy to say that my daughter has been sober for 3.5 years, has a great job with a recent promotion, and is getting married next...
  13. Kathy813

    Our son is still in his addiction...Kratom

    It sounds to me like your friend was never an alcoholic but was drinking to numb pain. I was re-watching the West Wing recently on Netflix and the chief of staff is a recovering alcoholic. He explained it to another character that an alcoholic can never stop at one drink. Of course, this was a...
  14. Kathy813

    Update

    Hi Albie. I am sorry you are still going through this with your son. It doesn't end until you end it. I am glad that your husband has come around and is on the same page. I think the worst part of all of this is when they throw the blame on us. My daughter used to call me vile names and say I...
  15. Kathy813

    I have the worst news ever. He’s deceased.

    I am so, so sorry.
  16. Kathy813

    And the shi* hit the fan

    Hi RN. I am so sorry this is happening. I am glad that your son has asked for help but am worried that he thinks just taking an anti-depressant will fix everything. My daughter was on (and still is) on anti-depressant all through her drinking and drugging years. She was also put on a lot of...
  17. Kathy813

    Sad but God's plan

    Years ago we had a poster that said her son had gotten sober because he was of a particular faith and if our addict children would just have stronger faith they could beat their addictions. That upset a lot of people (including me). Obviously if all it took was faith then there wouldn't be any...
  18. Kathy813

    Sad but God's plan

    We try to stay away from religion and politics on the CD forum.
  19. Kathy813

    Need prayers

    This quote by Portia Nelson was shared at a NAMI meeting and had a big impact on me. At first I thought it was about my daughter but then I realized it described me, too. I kept helping and enabling her over and over until I finally learned to walk around the hole.
  20. Kathy813

    Need prayers

    Keep repeating that to yourself. Over and over.
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