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    Was "Hopeless" then "furious" now I am at "padded room status"!

    So glad that the authorities are finally involved in a way that may be helpful; but at the very least should give you some sort of "time out"/pause, to catch your breath. If she is in detention, then you know all the bad places she is not!
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    Wth happened today

    Thanks Praecepta. The locked doors would not obstruct the ONLY path out, but one of several alternate paths out. But who knows which path one will need in a fire...options are good. I like the alarm on the door option - at least re my office. Thank you for this suggestion. We have smoke...
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    Escalating Drug Use

    Depending on your state, eviction may not take 30 days. You will probably have to serve him with notice or "notice to quit" as it is called in some states (the quit having nothing to do with quitting the drugs!) and then wait a certain period of time. In my state, it is 3 full business days...
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    Wth happened today

    To those of you who lock doors in your house -- not locking difficult child IN a room - but rather locking difficult child OUT OF a room, do you worry about locked internal doors and fire? I would like to lock difficult 17 yo son out of my home office, which connects to a bathroom which...
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    Power of Attorney?

    ALO? (sorry, I'm still new)
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    I don't know anymore if there is anything to be done to improve the situation

    Yes, Yes, and Yes. Living almost exactly the same story here.
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    Run out of options

    I do concur that in this situation homeschooling may be making things harder. And I am a homeschooling parent (5 kids, homeschooled them all, for varying amounts of time, up until entry to high school, at which time they went to public high school); so I am not slamming homeschooling or online...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    To clarify, I probably did a poor job of explaining in previous posts. Son has never shoved me; last night shouldered me to keep me from coming into bathroom, put his elbow out so that I couldn't squeeze past him to get in bathroom. Younger kids have never seen him shove me or block me, or get...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Counsellors son has seen say no mental health issues, no mental health diagnoses - just oppositional defiant disorder. I agree that there well could be something going on, but so far we have no insight or clarity into what. I don't know about harder drugs - I couldn't rule it out, but I have no...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Thank you to all of you for your feedback. I hear the perspective about calling the police and how it was aggression, and I appreciate others who said they also would not have called the police. Honestly, it did not occur to me to call the police. I did not feel fear or threatened in a way that...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Thanks - I'm have become well versed in my state's laws in this regard, and for this purpose; I know the process and what I have to do. (Have him served with a Notice to Quit, give a certain period for him to move out, then can evict with assistance of police etc. if necessary. This is not...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Yes, evicting him is an option. It will be awful, but it is likely I will (have to) do so.
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Yes, Mr. Percy was home. I woke him up when I smelled the pot. I told him that I was going to address the situation, and that I thought it better 1:1, because 2:1 usually escalates and makes it much worse. And my husband has been losing his cool (verbally) in frustration with him lately...
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    Run out of options

    Oh - I will offer one point - we homeschooled our kids for many years up to high school. Seeking academic rigor reasons. For 80% of my kids it was, on balance, a very good thing, and they thrived. But for my son who sounds a bit like your son (although no physical aggression), in hindsight, it...
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    Run out of options

    Your story is so familiar. I wish I had lots of advice, but I don't. I can say that I have been on this forum for only about a week - days of reading reams of posts, then making a few posts of my own. And it has been so, so helpful. No, I don't have solutions, or answers. But it has helped...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Sigh...so I am back to this thread again. I'm sorry to continue on this topic, but I am at a loss, and you all have been so supportive and helpful. Last night, 3am, I woke up to the smell of weed. I got up and went to the hall bathroom (the one my kids use). Door was closed; but not locked...
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    deep hole in the sidewalk is still there

    I am a volunteer crisis advocate of victims of sexual assault and domestic violence, so while I am not an expert, I have had much first hand contact with similar situations. Maybe I can offer some objective context that will be helpful. It takes women and average of 7 times leaving an abuser...
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    Thanks UpandDown - your shared experience makes me feel not so alone, and not "crazy" in what I am feeling.
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    My son is dead.

    My sympathy for the pain you must have experienced that brought you to this forum, and for the loss of your son. I hope that you can avail yourself of any virtual and non-virtual resources that can assist you with the practical things you must now deal with, as well as your grief and suffering.
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    Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?

    I think you are correct. He often flings retorts about how he is living in the "real world" and living like an adult.
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