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  1. StillStanding

    Saying "hi"

    Hello Forum Friends I haven't posted in a while because work, health and life have all been crazy overwhelming. My latest drama has been so ridiculous I can't even share it in the place I share everything. I still haven't taken the time to find myself a therapist. That has to be my next...
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    Another Sleepless Night

    Wish me luck as I try to fake my way through another day. I couldn't sleep again last night. My heart is so heavy with hopelessness.
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    Just when I thought I was going to be ok...

    I've been trying to get ODSP (SSI) for my son. Where I live, you qualify if you have a mental illness or learning disability or addiction, etc. Since my son has all 3, you would think he could just get medical proof and move on. Don't get me wrong, I don't think the government should pay for...
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    Some days are worse than others...

    Like many others, I haven't posted in a while. Life in general has been tough. I haven't seen my son in a couple of months. He usually doesn't answer my messages. Or, maybe, he'll send a one-word answer. I think I can get through it and then he doesn't show up for a visit with his son again...
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    Humour over Sadness

    It's been a really tough couple of weeks. And, a sucky night. I'm trying not to cry again (but it's not really working.) And, I remembered someone made a joke on another thread that we should ask what's the craziest thing you've done trying to change or outsmart your kid. My son used to hang...
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    What Boundaries Mean to Me

    Over the past 8 years, I have read and seen endless information about boundaries. I struggled with them for so long. I wasn't comfortable with some boundaries and then of course I wasn't able to stick to them. What I've learned is that I need boundaries but they need to be MINE. I was failing...
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    Saturday Night Survival

    What's everyone doing to enjoy the night? I'm hiding behind snacks and Netflix.
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    Time of Year

    There are so many difficult times of year... birthdays, Mother's Day, Christmas... But, this is one of the toughest times of the year. Watching all the social media posts of "back to school" with kids starting college. My son has had 3 false starts with school. I'm sure there won't be any more...
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    Impossibly Tired

    Well. Another sleepless night. When my alarm went off for work today I didn't think I could do it. But somehow we do. Today I'm the kind of tired that aches. And by the time I arrive at work I will have to put on my "face the world face." Trying to be normal is exhausting. Hearing about...
  10. StillStanding

    Relapse wins again

    After more than 3 months clean, outpatient drug treatment, medication compliance and a job... a slip into relapse followed by a fast moving spiral. My kind, funny and charming son has been replaced with a desperate liar once again. I'm not looking for advice but there's nobody in my "real"...
  11. StillStanding

    Another Perspective

    I often find it hard to believe the theories around "tough love" and "rock bottom". Sometimes, I feel like it's hard to express my opinions because I'm called an "enabler". I found this article today about a new book with a different perspective. I think I'll read this one. I thought I would...
  12. StillStanding

    Rent Support

    Do any of you pay part or all of your child's rent? Has this helped you? Are you glad you do it? Any regrets?
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    Just when I thought I couldn't get any stupider.

    I know I shouldn't call myself stupid (or anyone else for that matter). But, OMG, I can't believe I fell for it again. I hadn't seen Difficult Child in weeks so I told him I changed the locks and went on vacation. The stupid part.... I didn't change the locks. My check book is gone and my...
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    2 hour countdown

    Where we live, addicts can get free rehab (paid by the government). There is, of course, many more options if you pay yourself or have private insurance. My son doesn't have private insurance because he's too old for mine (21) and doesn't have a job. Because the free rehab is government...
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    Power of Attorney?

    Has anyone attempted Power of Attorney for their ALO? Not as drug use solution but more to manage life expenses? (i.e. managing their SSI (or equivalent) to pay for housing, etc.)
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    Sometimes help is just help...

    There are many discussions about enabling and taking care of ourselves. I wonder... do you have any practical advice for things you have done that have helped your loved one?
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