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I guess the reason for my comment about her feeling anandoned is because that is the crux of the Borderline disorder. And the way they treat it is with Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which focuses of validating feelings whether substantiated in reality or drafted out of warped perception. While...

I agree Copa, I just don't know how to get to that point. It is going to take some intense therapy or maybe just a strong belief that I am doing the right thing will be enough. I have set my limits and unfortunately she probably perceives them as abandonment. You are right that she has every...

Thanks again for wisdom and support. She called yesterday saung she wants to pick up some of her things. Ok. Calls back crying I can't understand her and I got frustrated and yelled "I can't understand what you are saying" she hung up and I called back apologizing for yelling. She started...

Thank you all so much for your replies and support. Legally they have tenants rights which here in CA is 60 days notice. Then the eviction process would begin if they did not leave (which would be $$ for us and an eviction on their record for them..well for her. He technically didn't live...

I have not been on here in a long time. I have been on a support group on Facebook which has been pretty good thought I might post here too. It's been 4 years I think since I found this website and unfortunately not much has changed. A lot has changed in our life - but not much with my...

Sorry, did I misunderstand something? I was just replying to the thread anout Borderline (BPD). I've been a member for 4 years I believe, I just don't post much. I will most likely be posting more now that I remember my login and also might find the need for much more support soon. Thank you for your...

I haven't been on here in so long I forgot my login info...finally remembered it. I am 99% certain my 21 year old daughter has Borderline (BPD). I think when I first found this website, she was around 17...can't believe it's been that long. My daughter herself thinks she has it. For the last year and a...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have a daughter that exhibits most of the symptoms of Borderline (BPD) and she herself said she believes she has it. She had her "first" psychiatry appointment today, not really her first but first in many years. It can be a nightmare when they rage. It's all...

I really enjoyed reading that thanks. I cringe at that word. It is a label that is far too simplistic or maybe overused. Yes I am an enabler. Guess what, many other parents would be too but they escape the title because their kids are going along the right path. One mother might give one or...

All of this is so confusing sometimes. Copa, I understand what you are saying. I am glad to know that on this forum I am not the only one who had a drinking problem. For me, it has been an overwhelming realization in the last couple years that part of the problem is me and my fear. And...

Copa, so much of what you said is how I feel too. Being a former drinker, and a blackout reckless angry drinker, it terrifies me seeing my daughter like this. I started around 18 when I was in a band. It lowered my inhibitions but it also ultimately took me from the music I so loved. There...

Thanks everyone. I just feel quite lost these days. Classes are a good idea Tired Mama. I keep wanting to learn how to wire wrap stones to make jewelry. There's always something to learn.

I appreciate your apology SWOT. Perhaps I am also just an emotional wreck right now and take everything harshly so I'm sorry if I overreacted. I didn't mean to sound like I am not happy for my son. Just realizing how much I don't have going on in my life to focus on as he needs me less and...

I am very happy for you and your son. What a relief! It seems like so many people have traits of personality disorders. I really think labels are destructive even if someone truly does have one. We are all individuals with bits and pieces of positive and negative traits and learned coping...

Wow. Maybe this is not the place for me. Your words sting. I certainly am proud of him. I'm not sure why you think I am not. And very happy for him. But empty nest feelings are also normal for some and difficult for some. Sorry I posted about my feelings. I thought here was a safe place...

Leafy, I am so sorry your two are still struggling. You have been such a strong support for me on here over the last few months. I don't know how to overcome the pain and grief that comes with this journey that we, as mother's of lost children, travel. Some days are good and some are...

My daughter has been home two days straight. Sober. My husband brought her home and she was drunk three nights ago. Son was in the car. I told her she cannot come home if she's been drinking. And we will not be giving her rides in the evening at all anymore. She has been in a decent...

Thanks, these both look interesting. I think Journey of Souls is next on my list to purchase.

Thanks for this recommendation. I downloaded it and have read almost the whole thing today. Very good book.

I almost purchased this for kindle but it says it is very Christian based. I believe in a higher power but I am not affiliated with any religion so I thought it might be too faith based for me but I don't know...maybe not. I think I will probably get it. The reviews were high.