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  1. Enmeshedmom

    Check in thread - how are you all?

    I’m slowly starting to feel more peaceful, I have my moments where the worry tries to take hold and make me look for disaster up ahead but I have been able to keep it at bay. We needed this separation from one another in order for both of us to grow and it’s nice not to have had to ask him to...
  2. Enmeshedmom

    Check in thread - how are you all?

    My son quit smoking pot about a year ago and just left for boot camp on Tuesday. I’m so proud and excited for what’s to come but also worried about all the what if’s. We can’t go to his graduation because of COVID and we aren’t promised a livestream but they are going to try. He also won’t get...
  3. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Well, it’s been a long road but on Monday I dropped my ds off at the hotel for his early Tuesday morning departure to boot camp. He had to quarantine for two weeks prior to leaving and we spent that time cleaning out his room and making sure he had all his favorite foods before he left. He told...
  4. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Well, unfortunately just before his date for Meps the recruiter called and said the meps doctor wanted 10 years of medical records before he could get his physical. He got right on the phone and had the forms emailed to him and he promptly filled them out and went to staples to fax them, gets...
  5. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    He has taken his Asvab and scored a 92 out of 99 and will go to meps a week from today, that is when he will have his physical and if everything goes well he will be sworn in. We live on the coast in Maine.
  6. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Just came back to read some of my old posts. Just over a year since this last one and I am happy to say that this phase passed. He did go back to smoking a lot of pot after unfortunately but today he has been smoke free for almost two months and has an appointment to meet with someone from the...
  7. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Thank everyone for the replies. I agree on some level with each one of you. He told me yesterday that he is trying to grow up and I think that sat with me while I slept last night. He is fighting his way to becoming the kind of man he wants to be and I think that is not a bad thing. And I’m all...
  8. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Well there is a new twist to this story. My son has been talking to a local farmer in our area about god and the Bible, they are devout Christians. I decided to go there and speak with him because I have been so worried about my son. It all makes sense now, this man has my son convinced that he...
  9. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Well he is talking and acting strange. He just came home from work early and said that they hired someone else and he left. I’m sure it is because of his behavior. He only wants to talk about religion and he just isn’t himself. He applied to a place he use to work at before he came home. I’m not...
  10. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    I don’t know what to do anymore. He is acting really strange again and I told him again this morning that I think he needs to seek professional help. He said that he will see somebody but I’m not sure if it’s just to shut me up. I’m so worried about him.
  11. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    He seems to be leveling off a bit, acting more normal (for him anyway). Still says he is born again Christian, which is fine. He doesn’t appear to be using drugs, isn’t acting sneaky and has been a lot more pleasant to be around. It’s nice and at the same time unnerving because I don’t know if...
  12. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    Thanks for your response. I’m not sure if it is drug induced psychosis or just another obsession to take the place of his obsession with pot. I believe he has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and has for a long time, along with the frequent hand washing and double closing doors he also gets obsessed with subjects and trying...
  13. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile but I’m back

    So I took some time off from my sons problems back in January when he did the unthinkable and moved in with his addict father. It lasted only a month and ended about the way I figured it would and he came home. He was working but still smoking a lot of pot and being disrespectful. Well fast...
  14. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    Yes it can, if not longer.
  15. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    Well we are a week in and so far so good. The extreme anger seems to have gone except for when he starts to talk about his dad. He really had him fooled about the kind of person he was until he moved in and got to see it first hand. My son told me he saw some of the negative traits he has gotten...
  16. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    Well I got a call from his grandmother last night, apparently my son brought his dad to her place because she had surgery on Friday and he said he needed to take care of her. But instead when they got there my son witnessed his father trying to force his mother who just had surgery to give him...
  17. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    I agree about the i statements. I sent him a text yesterday and said that my only wish for him is that he is happy but that it was no longer going to come at the cost of my own happiness. That I refuse to except unacceptable behavior and expect to be treated the same way I treat him. Like Dr...
  18. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    Only time will tell I guess.
  19. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    He has never been abusive or dangerous. Well maybe his yelling over the last month could have bordered on verbal abuse sometimes but it did not rise to that level when he was living here. I think because he knows that I can only be pushed so far. His mail has always come here and still does, he...
  20. Enmeshedmom

    It’s been awhile.

    Well he is home. I got a call this afternoon he was hysterical saying could I please come and help him get his stuff because his dad was messed up and acting crazy. So of course I went, his dad was belligerent and I couldn’t even understand most of what he was saying. I helped him gather his...
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