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agree finally have let go I’m feeling so much better

Thank you all for sharing your wisdom This is a hard road Loving those who actually don’t love themselves and blame us for their problems I check in and see the wisdom of detachment And finally have chosen my well being over the roller coaster ride of fog manipulation and consequences that...

Have the same thing going on and my son is 43 Blames me for his lack of self of care Refuses to get treatment was on medication that helped but stopped now spiraling down again Is working finally but can’t manage money and constantly asking me to give him money if I don’t then hear the litany...

updating My 42 year old son who is currently in a shelter But has found a job And has been on medication for major depression he also has other personality disorders Is currently looking for a new job as the shelter is helping him find a room they work towards independence for the shelter...

Update Son in shelter He has found a job.... Still asking for money and using guilt tripping on me but has made strides This detaching is so hard but seeing some results Still struggle with wanting to fix but seeing he is actually taking steps to solve his problems himself...he's not happy about...

Thanks for sharing all this helps me with my continued letting go with my 42 year old Homeless son Thank you all for the support. It is so helpful to know we aren't alone

Thank you all for sharing your hard earned wisdom My 42 yr old son. Homeless pulling the guilt card..I am standing strong Not enabling anymore..this forum gives me the strength and confirms the need to keep on turning back to my own self care I didn't think it was possible for me to detach with...

Thank you for you astute comments helpful to me too

Thank you...it is a balancing act..but your right can't control another He is taking smalll steps...I am finding my way out of heartbreak and staying strong for both of us..thank you again

Thank you...he is in shelter...I feel the sadness and guilt but remember that's not the whole picture Feeling the support of others is so helpful...it is a hard kind of grief Thank you again

thank you...New Leaf ...I printed your answer so I can look at it when I get weak in the knees... I have done so much...It is his turn and time...letting go is hard but I know the alternative for either one of us is not the answer...holding my heart and all of those who know this journey with...

Thank you for support...he is in shelter..will see..he asked me why I hate him...I told him I love him...it is so hard even if it's his only real chance ...I am so grateful for all of you...tears but holding strong...letting go with love quite a challenge...

Check in Finally letting go...have connected him with services but he stopped helping himself as he is so used to being enabled and just wants to continue just being paid for and wasting time on video games I have been thru the roller coaster again and have decided to let go with love I have...

Not ditch..detach....maybe that's how it feels but really it is about allowing him even if he is mentally ill ...take responsibility

Well..he has taken some steps..saw dr...on rx...we will see...still will have to ditch soon..trying to get him connected to services and see medication helps..first time in 12 years he is finally admitting he needs help Walking that fine line...

Checking in.. He went to Doctor...and now appointment for mental health...slow process..and heartbreaking...because there will be no easy answer here..each step is complicated and so hard to watch..services are limited and because he has been untreated so long and isn't diagnosed has to wait...

Thank you all for the support....today I told my son if he wanted support he had to go get a mental health evaluation..he agreed...it's so hard but I see him finally taking steps...praying he gets to those who can assist him and start the process towards disability which might give him a chance...

Thank you reaching out can't do this alone

New to this forum I know our stories are individual but the themes are helping me Background Mentally ill adult son 41 who had a pyschotic break at 30 Was enabled by girlfriend which allowed him not to get help I tried to intervene got services for him he refused mental health program Treated...