detachment

I've found tremendous support in this forum on a difficult topic that many can't relate to. The detachment article was so powerful to read. Our 21-year-old daughter, L, has subjected us to years of emotional, financial abuse, and even physical threats. Despite moving out at 18 and us...

This is my first post, so bear with me. I hope it’s not too confusing. My daughter’s, alias-May, dad died suddenly at age 55. Now her dad’s brother’s wife is reaching out to me on FB, alias-Sal. Sal says her boy (May’s cousin) visited May in her current home state, where May can get Medicaid...

After four months of having my 36yo son living in my home to "get on his feet", four months that he spent stoned pretty much 24x7 and excelling at Twitter and RPG's, four months in which he saved NO money, four months in which I drove him back and forth to his part-time job, four months during...

I always blamed myself for my daughter struggling through life. She was only 2 when my marriage broke up and then I struggled to get on my feet. She went back and forth for visits at her dad's and there was a lot of turmoil. But there was a lot of good too. I remarried and my current husband...

I am trying to find a balance between being a good parent and not being codependent. I have made a list in my journal of terms of codependency and parenting. Needless to say there is a tremendous overlap. Where does parenting and good guidance end and codependency being? I grapple with...

as some of you may know AS who has refused to follow through with rehab has been given 14 days to leave the house. We have re keyed the locks and he is only allowed in when we are home and not to have anyone in the house. He broke his cell phone and asked me to fix it. I told him I needed the...

I belong to a support group on Facebook and there was a debate on what causes addiction. It got very heated and I found it upset me a great deal. It made me challenge and reevalute my own perceptions and position on Addiction. What I have learned over the past years in this crazy ride through...

Oh boy. Like many people here, I struggle with a soon to be 18 year old bipolar daughter who is in denial. I have owned her illness but she has not. I have tried multiple doctors, theripists and energy healers. Virtually no progress and it wasn't better on medications with the horrible side...

Hello and thank you for this forum. I am so glad I found it. I am new here and this is my first post. I have a 30-year-old daughter who was diagnosed as Bipolar (possibly Borderline) at about 13 years old. She can not hold a job. She has relied on boyfriends and an ex-husband for a place to...