My 11 yr old boy is obsessed with being with his mother. Although he has been told by her "she doesn't love him and doesn't want him around. In the past 9 yrs it has been a yo-yo with visitation rights to see her. She has some type mental problems, also she can't stay off drugs and alcohol very long at a time. After many consults with her, saying just protect this boy, she agrees for the time we are talking to her but very shortly she returns to drugs. It seems my son also has the same mental problem as her, but the dr. can not diagnose it. After his last visitation, he said she stayed on the chatrooms on the internet the whole weekend he was there. Allowing him to wander the streets alone, cooking his own meals, etc. while she chatted with her friends on facebook. I will not allow a 11 yr old to take care of himself unsupervised for a whole weekend. Now he is in constant trouble at home, saying he thinks this will cause me to send him to live with his mother. I've tried everything from grounding grom tv and games, to timeout, and writing sentences as punishment. Nothing matters to him, he is obsessed with trying to get his mother to give him the love and attention he needs from her. I don't know what to do, he certainly isn't safe at her house. help!!!!!!