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13 y/o Son No Empathy Disrespects Mother
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 635348" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Yep. From your description, I'd agree, very HF Aspie.</p><p>The funny thing is (and I know it's not funny to you) but that since Mom is a psychologist, she still gets cr*p at home. Moms always get it the worst.</p><p>I'd definitely take away privileges. Mom has to learn to quit engaging and just say NO, and create an immediate consequence. When difficult child acts out and picks on sisters or whatever, he gets even more things taken away.</p><p>One thing I'd warn against is too long of a punishment. Aspies and even NT teens are into the moment. Anything longer than a week seems to be counterproductive.</p><p>Also, I'd suggest that you and mom tell difficult child things ahead of time, such as, "Tomorrow I will be home a little later so that will change the time that I pick you up. Plan to read a book or something while you wait. Then again, I may be early." He won't like the uncertainty but it's better than the alternative.</p><p>In regard to empathy, does he have good facial expression? Can he memorize rules of behavior regardless of empathy? Such as, when he was little, "Don't tell that person she's fat. It will hurt her feelings." ?</p><p></p><p>In regard to medications, since he's doing well in school and music, he probably doesn't need medications. You could try essential oils, maybe a cold mister at night with lavender or other calming oils.</p><p>You are lucky he's doing so well! Congrats!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 635348, member: 3419"] Yep. From your description, I'd agree, very HF Aspie. The funny thing is (and I know it's not funny to you) but that since Mom is a psychologist, she still gets cr*p at home. Moms always get it the worst. I'd definitely take away privileges. Mom has to learn to quit engaging and just say NO, and create an immediate consequence. When difficult child acts out and picks on sisters or whatever, he gets even more things taken away. One thing I'd warn against is too long of a punishment. Aspies and even NT teens are into the moment. Anything longer than a week seems to be counterproductive. Also, I'd suggest that you and mom tell difficult child things ahead of time, such as, "Tomorrow I will be home a little later so that will change the time that I pick you up. Plan to read a book or something while you wait. Then again, I may be early." He won't like the uncertainty but it's better than the alternative. In regard to empathy, does he have good facial expression? Can he memorize rules of behavior regardless of empathy? Such as, when he was little, "Don't tell that person she's fat. It will hurt her feelings." ? In regard to medications, since he's doing well in school and music, he probably doesn't need medications. You could try essential oils, maybe a cold mister at night with lavender or other calming oils. You are lucky he's doing so well! Congrats! [/QUOTE]
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