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<blockquote data-quote="Go slow mama" data-source="post: 704630"><p>Thank you for your honest sharing of what is so very personal and hard to contend with.</p><p></p><p>I cringed when I read your words, I relate, yes, been there and done that. My son has been violent with me, destructive in the home. It was terrifying, it felt like the bottom was falling out. It got ugly. I agree with folks who say to call the police, I did, many times, but not every time. I think the idea of gauging it and learning de-escalation techniques helps and offers a less intrusive reaction as an option. You sound like you are someone who is very attendant and in the game.</p><p></p><p>Trust your instincts, if you feel physically unsafe you need outside intervention. Unfortunately this is really only the police. Where I live they have mental health social workers who get dispatched when the call relates to a mentally disturbed person. It's the actual monicker the police use, so now I know that if I have to call, I use that term and I get a social worker. See if there are options like this, it helps to diversify the response team. I would also encourage you to document, if you are not already. Do you get any respite? This is so important. I had no respite and it only made us both tired and the aggression worsened.</p><p></p><p>Oh! I can say that this behaviour did stop altogether, no physical aggression in our home for years now, but it morphed.</p><p></p><p>I am wishing you courage, love and conviction.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Go slow mama, post: 704630"] Thank you for your honest sharing of what is so very personal and hard to contend with. I cringed when I read your words, I relate, yes, been there and done that. My son has been violent with me, destructive in the home. It was terrifying, it felt like the bottom was falling out. It got ugly. I agree with folks who say to call the police, I did, many times, but not every time. I think the idea of gauging it and learning de-escalation techniques helps and offers a less intrusive reaction as an option. You sound like you are someone who is very attendant and in the game. Trust your instincts, if you feel physically unsafe you need outside intervention. Unfortunately this is really only the police. Where I live they have mental health social workers who get dispatched when the call relates to a mentally disturbed person. It's the actual monicker the police use, so now I know that if I have to call, I use that term and I get a social worker. See if there are options like this, it helps to diversify the response team. I would also encourage you to document, if you are not already. Do you get any respite? This is so important. I had no respite and it only made us both tired and the aggression worsened. Oh! I can say that this behaviour did stop altogether, no physical aggression in our home for years now, but it morphed. I am wishing you courage, love and conviction. [/QUOTE]
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